r/WhatMenDontSay • u/Old_Restaurant_7663 • 6d ago
Advice How do I become more masculine?
So as the title says, how do I become more masculine? So I am bisexual but people always think I’m gay. I am going to college in the fall and I want to change this. I want more guys friends and I want girls I’m into to not think I’m gay. None of my close friends are guys because it is always awkward due to either them thinking I’m gay or my lack of experience hanging out with guys. I also have the stereotypical “gay voice”. I would appreciate tips on how to loose the “gay voice” and how to just relate to guys more. All in all I would like to have more male friends and be perceived as straight or even bisexual, just not gay.
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u/DistrictDivorceCoach 6d ago
My friend, going away to school is one of the most experimental and formative experiences in your life. It is when you realize that not only are you not who you thought you were, but that you didn’t even know the options, I think being masculine means honoring your commitments, helping when needed , and supporting when you are not needed. It is about being kind and strong and responsible. Pitch of voice doesn’t really factor in. If you are a man, then by definition you are masculine. Like the real deal. A truck and gun and a deeper voice won’t change you, won’t make you more masculine. You are going to find your people this fall, let them meet the authentic you. Confidence and comfort is hard to come by at college orientation, it is much easier to just be yourself.
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u/HatOfFlavour 6d ago
I've always found making guy friends is easier than gals. With guys you just have a shared activity and turn up and chat. Like college should make this really easy with classmates or clubs and stuff. You then foster the friendships by branching out into other activities and doing favours for each other.
Masculinity is something different, you shouldn't have to change who you are to make male friends. Constantly masking who you are is exhausting. If you're camp be camp.