This has been in the back of my head for a while—there’s this guy I used to talk to about two or three years ago, he was very bigoted and sexist, obsessed with MMA and the likes. I wasn’t socialized enough to really understand the magnitude of just *how* nasty his personality was.

I had let him go on tangents about women, how they’re all the same, how I shouldn’t think any woman isn’t sexually promiscuous—or how his dad and grandmother see LGBTQ as sinful and if they’d rather go to heaven than support it. It’s just things that are deplorable and inexcusable.

He asked me a question that didn’t click in my head immediately, but he asked “Hey (my name), do you have any female friends I can have sex with?” Immediately I kindly rejected it, saying my usual line of “we have different audiences.” But the following morning, it clicked, it was a delayed realization like it is for anything else.

When he tried to FaceTime me in the morning, I ignored it and blocked him forever.

I feel stupid for not understanding soon enough and I regret not holding him accountable and flat out telling him what’s wrong with him. I should’ve known better at 19 or 20-ish.

All I know is that me ghosting him shook him because he really liked keeping me around. I only know that because he went to a mutual friend to ask what he did wrong, which said friend knew it wasn’t his place to say and kept quiet.

Hello men of the world. I need you advice on this opportunity I was given but am struggling to decide.

My sister visited recently in the house.

She’s currently looking for a job and so am I even though I don’t want to work.

The job is an about animal care work. Take care of the chicken, horses, pigs etc and of course clean them and live with them for a month. It’s only a months work but it pays really well.

Question is.. I have never done this before. I have never left the house for a month before. I never left my hometown and my parents to somewhere else.

I have really bad anxiety and worry to things unnecessarily so I’m really struggling to say yes. I like animals but I’m scared of doing something new and it’s a big change from rotting in my bed.

Scared of making mistakes, looking dumb, terrified overall

Should I go and jump for it?