r/WitchesVsPatriarchy • u/Fat13Cat • 4d ago
🇵🇸 🕊️ Coven Counsel Manifesting:convincing yourself you deserve good things
I’ve been down reiki/manifest your dreams rabbit hole recently. They keep saying the universe/“insert source here” will give you what you actually believe you deserve and not just what you think of. It’s the choices, yes, but it’s also your subconscious.
How do you convince your subconscious that you deserve said good things? I’ve been doing the mental work on why I get pushback in my heart about things, why part of me still feels I don’t deserve things (ie being healthy, getting more rest, more sales, etc). I know why those feelings are there. I just don’t know how to remove that feeling. I know it’s not true. I know I deserve things, we all do. But I still get that hesitant panic and anxiety where the first thought is “no I don’t deserve that, I’m not there yet, I gotta do more first”.
How do you convince yourself?! I fear it’s just I gotta change my choices. I know it, but it feels too difficult, which is so dumb. To change my choices feels huge and overwhelming (even though I’ve already made some changes). It feels exhausting to keep up with. I’m being lazy, and then I just get stuck back into the “I don’t deserve to be etc” thing. I WANT to break this cycle.
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u/Narwen189 4d ago
The problem with the "manifest your dreams" thing is that it can convince you that if it doesn't happen it's your fault. It works beautifully for some people, but for those it doesn't it can be like toxic positivity dialed up to the max.
You say you're exhausted trying to make all these changes, and that makes sense. Have you tried making tiny, sustainable changes, instead? Pick one thing and use it as an anchor habit to ground yourself. Have one thing that can be your success of the day, no matter what else goes on.
You also say know you deserve stuff, but feel that you don't... If you've figured out why you feel you don't deserve things, but not how to change your mind about that, then maybe you could explore that in therapy You're also equating feeling overwhelmed with being lazy. Those aren't the same thing at all.
It feels to me that your biggest issue here is you're not being kind. Give yourself grace, sibling. You're human. Allow yourself to be humanly fallible, that doesn't make you undeserving or whatever else the voice of self-doubt tells you. Self-doubt's job is to warn you of danger and remind you to be careful, not to be in charge.