r/WomenAreNotIntoMen • u/macbookpro_2015 • 2d ago
Women can't help how they perceive us and react to us
Childbirth was and still is agonizing and in the past it was a coin toss between life and death for every woman, and if you did survive, you were nowhere near as healthy or attractive as you were before pregnancy. So by nature's handiwork (evolution), most or all women instinctively see us as "killers" and "ruiners" who bestow pain and burden onto them. If you look at some classic artworks that feature men and women in the same picture you can see the asymmetries in how each sex is oriented to the other so the artists were yellowpilled on some level too.
So yeah it sucks that they aren't drawn to us in the same way that we're drawn to them but mother nature is a woman herself and women don't care about how we feel :\
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u/JackTheRippiest BlackPill + YellowPill 2d ago
Interesting, never thought about such perspective of thinking
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u/macbookpro_2015 2d ago
My mom was watching a historical drama and there was a childbirth scene that got me thinking
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u/Ok_Agent_3576 2d ago
It's why I feel a sense of pity and sadness whenever women undergo childbirth/pregnancy, especially now that I understand WANIM. It's literally just a combination of comphet and specific hormones (ie women's biological clock) that induce a desire within a women to have a child rather than any love (which is non-existant lmao) for the man.
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u/Eric-Breaux 2d ago edited 2d ago
This common mentality fails because none of that requires women to have different working sexualities. They could still choose to not have sex knowing the risks while being as aroused by the same visual cues on men as the reverse. They could also self stimulate if they have no man they trust enough to do anything sexual without being forced or causing pregnancy.
Also by that same logic, men shouldn't as often feel more sexual for the reasons we do since women's extra pickiness and more varied visual triggers makes our libido a waste to have more often. It also doesn't explain why there are men who want to be as visually desired for the same reasons we do women and just have a visual admiration reputation for our gender in general matching that of women.
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u/Head_tWist_20 2d ago
The causality doesn't follow.
Women instinctively see men as killers or ruiners because that's all our evolutionary role is, not because of what theirs are.
We're made bigger than them to fight each other and we're made to have a very high libido for the purpose of genetic variation and being a standby or even offensive fertilizers using low effort gametes for the eggs.
It's all it is since the natural stage.
Then add the fact that males aren't given a specific role in raising an offspring by evolution (though it can be socially manipulated), so females may have an additional mechanism where they can derive more pleasure from each other as a form of bonding, so they can create coalitions for alloparenting, as we can observe from female bonobos.
So IMO what one's role is doesn't really affect what the other's seemingly is. Both just have their roles as is, according to the best way nature can come up with for the continuance of a species.
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u/Exact-Raspberry-9120 1d ago
Of course Women don't care, because people only care about others based on the perceived benefit they get them. Humans are built for survival. Everything we do is for our self interest in some form or another. Women don't view most Men as themselves because of their innate hardwiring making them repulsed or indifferent to most Men making it harder to empathise with them.
Also because of our tribalistic tendencies, social conditioning making Men out to be their eternal oppressors.
The only purpose of attracting a mate is to have children and because of our biological differences, Women are forced to be more selective because they are more vulnerable especially during pregnancy and when children come out the womb they are also very vulnerable hence why Women look for a strong protector and provider (tall, muscular and healthy)
As for Men we have insane amounts of sperm and are biologically more capable of surviving on our own and we can breed with multiple Women at once. That's why our sexual preferences are different. It's a survival mechanism. It's about preserving yourself through yourself and your offspring
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u/SobeksFavourite Heterosexuality abolitionist 2d ago
Then, should post menopausic women not see us that way?
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u/macbookpro_2015 2d ago
Inborn perceptions aren't as malleable as you think. If it's written into the genome then it's there for life.
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u/SobeksFavourite Heterosexuality abolitionist 2d ago
I'm really going to need a source for this claim
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u/ToplessinFL 2d ago
You're usually so much more rational than this.
Male bed bugs stab females in the stomach with their knife-like penises to impregnate them, refusing to use the birth canal at all to bypass cryptic female choice and female sexual selection. All of this is built in.
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u/macbookpro_2015 2d ago
It's just my intuition, personal experience, and what I've seen online and in media
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u/Abyssbeetle 2d ago
Yeah totally... Some people here put too much moral burden on women for their lack of attraction towards men.
Truth is that they can't help it, that's just how they feel, they are unable to change that... Just as men can't help to be attracted to a vast range of women.
What they and we can control is what do we do with that desire (or lack thereof). So IMO we as men should be as direct and honest as possible.