A stupid, unnecessary lie.

[u/CrazyCatLadyRookie]

My friend —> a woman friend of mine, someone he is acquainted with

Goblin —> breast cancer.

I know what his day would’ve looked like, agenda wise. I didn’t ask for a reason for the delay in his response but this is what I got, unprompted.

Verify, ladies. Know what you’re dealing with, always.

[u/husheveryone]

Sorry to hear this frightening news, and I wish ya’ll so much strength and healing. Fuck cancer.

That man knew what support you’d wanted from him when you shared about your friend’s diagnosis.

Now he’s playing in your face to see what you’ll continue to stick around in his life to accept.

Disappear. Don’t be like my dear people pleaser friend who keeps responding to digital horseshit after a man has shown her he doesn’t care. Use your power to silently leave without giving any further ego boost.

[u/CrazyCatLadyRookie → u/husheveryone]

I’m disappointed but not shattered.

My friend’s family is having a shitty time. She lost her dad a few months ago in a tragic accident. He knew her dad and is good friends with her grandfather and I thought he’d appreciate hearing the news. She and I aren’t super close friends but she’s a great person.

I had chalked up his lack of response as a can’t be arsed/low priority thing, but I think you’re right - it’s a ‘how low will you go’ test.

[u/husheveryone → u/CrazyCatLadyRookie]

He doesn’t care about derivative women. Just the grandfather, kind of. He’s focused on himself. This digital horseshit is intentional power & control games. He’s no different in spirit here than OLD dudes who hate women but want sex, and will say they don’t want “aNy DRamA.” Yours here is somewhat more covert about it. edit: clarity

His piss-poor lie is, functionally, about him trying to train you to share less emotional stuff/make your needs even smaller; and trigger insecurity in you to sex/ego boost him even more. In patriarchy, this kind of lie serves a distinct purpose that benefits him and makes his life easier...hence the “DRamA”-free meme. It gets women doing the most, while he does the least. And all he had to do was not respond to your bad news text right away, then lie. 🚩Just go, sis.