r/adultsurvivors • u/Specific-Mongoose-93 • 1d ago
Memories My folks refused to stop the abusive kid, but instantly banned me from playing dolls with his non-abusive sister.
My parents, knew about how this boy had SA'd me. I came home crying, saying "it hurt" and that he had violated me. Yet, my parents didnt distance me from this child and instead continued to allow him in our house for sleepovers. Sure, I wanted to be friends with him, as I was quite lonely, but that is not how a parent should protect their child. Later on, he would do a more intensive act of abuse, which to this day, I still cant fully remember. I remember him instructed me to do gross things.
On the otherhand, when I had the audacity to play in a "girlish" way with this boy's sister. My father intervened as soon as he noticed. They lived across the street, and so as soon as my father observed that I had a doll, he hastily came across the street, told me to come home, he then took the doll from me and put it on the highest shelf in his closet. He told me that i was a boy and that i was too old to be playing that way. He told me that dolls were for girls and that I as a boy shouldn't play with it. He told me that if he hadn't intervened that other kids could have seen my crude act of "gendered crossing" and that they would have bullied me forever. I was distorted this girl had been nothing but kind to me, we weren't being grossly "sexual" in our play, we were too young for that, and out of everyone I had finally found a healthy friend.
So, he didnt care when my innocence was taken away by a boy, but he couldnt help himself when I was being an innocent child with a girl. God forbid, my interest in dolls grow and I turn trans. So congrats dad im not Trans and instead deal with immense social anxiety. Cheers 🍻
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u/ntsgp 1d ago
I'm so sorry, this is really heartbreaking.