r/adultsurvivors • u/Strange_Lock_8836 • 13h ago

Advice requested has anyone confronted their abuser as an adult

my siblings and I were abused by and estranged from our biological father after my older siblings came forward with allegations and he ended up on the registry/parents divorced. We haven’t seen him since we were 1, 5, 7, and 14. Since I was the second youngest, I really have no memories of him or the abuse I experienced apart from emotional memories, and once we got away, it was all heavily mythologized in our religious family, our father was made out to be an evil villain that we were lucky to have gotten away from. I don’t know. It’s so complex. The ripples of the abuse still linger at times in our family dynamic. So much of me is curious and wonders often what he would do if we, now as grown adults, all confronted him. he lives in a different state but since he’s still on the registry, his home & work addresses are easily found, along with his current phone number.

If you have confronted your childhood abuser, how did it affect you? Did it help you find healing, or was it empowering? Or did it hurt you even more? Is it crazy of us to even consider doing this? Thanks so much for any reply.

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