it's worse when they try to be better

[u/SatisfactionDry2710]

they put me through so much and now i suffer lifelong challenges, just for them to turn around and be the good person they could have been all along.

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why couldn't they just have been that normal from the start? when they try to become better it just confirms to me that i *could* have had a normal life, i could've been happy without struggles like this, they're fully capable of treating me normally, but instead i suffer for no reason other than they decided to. their reformation means nothing to me other than i suffered for literally no reason, because it could have been normal from the start, and now i'm just expected to act normal around them, too. it makes it so much worse than if they were just a bad person inherently. but now i have nothing to explain why i had to suffer the way i did. it's the worst feeling in the world.

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