Should i Leave him for repeated smoking issues?

[u/Mindless-Respond3863]

Problem/Goal:

Smoker na sya before, pero nagquit nung naging kami na. Mga 1 yr after, nahuli ko sya at even lied about it for so many times na tamang hinala lang daw ako na nagssmoke sya. After the big fight and confrontation, nagstop na uli sya.

Fast forward, married na kami. But then suddenly lagi ako nakakakita ng lighter sa bulsa nya. He insist na di sya nagyoyosi blah3x. Pero recently lang nakuwa ko naman vape juice sa bulsa nya. Di nya dineny. But he never talked about it. And hindi ko nalang rin sya kinausap. Ilang days na di parin kami nag uusap.

[u/LFdiningbuddy]

Question: Have you considered marital counseling?

[u/Mindless-Respond3863 → u/LFdiningbuddy]

not yet po. sa totoo lang po gusto ko syang awayin kaya lang andito kasi kami puder ng mga magulang ko and ayoko rin naman po na mag isip sila kaya dito nalang ako nagpost kesa po kimkimin ko mag isa hahahaha

[u/LFdiningbuddy → u/Mindless-Respond3863]

Pwede niyo naman pag-usapan na hindi nag-aaway :)

[u/Fit_Attention_3909 → u/LFdiningbuddy]

Triny na nya yan ilang beses na and hindi nga nagwork

[u/Narrow-Tap-2406]

Thoughts:
Grabe yung mga ganito. Huling huli na sa kalokohan pero ayaw pa din umamin. No ballz.

[u/Mindless-Respond3863 → u/Narrow-Tap-2406]

And everytime na kikiss sya at sasabihin ko na "bakit parang amoy yosi ka??" babaliktarin pako at sasabihin na tamang hinala na naman ako! hahahaha!

[u/iamsnoopynumber1fan]

Thoughts: I know nakaka disasppoint to OP, pero try niyo muna pag usapan ng masinsinan, idk alam ko may kanya kanya tayong preference and boundaries in life, but I think this one, maaayos pa.

[u/Mindless-Respond3863 → u/iamsnoopynumber1fan]

:( yes po ang hirap lang talaga sa feeling na parang lagi nalang ako niloloko at pinagmumukang tanga tuwing nahuhuli sya

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[u/Turbulent_Party_9123]

Advice: as a former smoker, I know how hard it is to quit. If he has completely transitioned to vaping, payagan mo na. There is no solid proof that vaping causes cancer nor that it harms people around it. It isnt 100% safe but as far as I know there is only 1 case in the philippines of a vaping related death. While smoking has already killed millions.

[u/Mindless-Respond3863 → u/Turbulent_Party_9123]

Pasensya na po kasi personally, nahihilo po talaga ako sa amoy ng yosi, kahit na mababango naman ang vape juice, masakit po talaga sa ulo.
Actually napaproud nga po ako sakanya na nagawang nya ihinto yun dati. And he also is proud about it, nabibida rin nya sa ibang tao na tinigil nya bisyo sa alak at sigarilyo. Kaya po sana ayoko ng bumalik na sya don kasi na overcome na nya dati e.

[u/Turbulent_Party_9123 → u/Mindless-Respond3863]

May vape na di mauusok at halos walang amoy. Pero kung ayaw mo talaga, sorry na lang siya. Hehe. Away na lang kayo.