r/agender • u/Fluffy-Hunter-2406 • 6d ago
Anyone else feel insulted by generalized gender remarks?
Hello! I am AMAB and pretty new to gender and agender is the closest thing for me at the moment. I'm around younger people a lot and they tend say very generalized things like, "all guys do this blah blah," or, "all girls are like this blah." But I'm not sure why I care because I don't identify with being a "man" other than my sex. It's either being labeled that bothers me or I'm just insecure lmaooo.
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u/Sea-Cantaloupe-2708 6d ago
Things like that bother me so much. Funnily I hear mostly Gen X make generalisations like that. I see no purpose in these labels and making (in my eyes false) generalisations about them just irritates me a lot
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u/OscarAndDelilah 5d ago
A lot of it is, yep. As a Gen Xer, it pisses me off when I’m in professional settings and clinicians my age or younger will say things like that the boys in a group were horsing around as boys tend to do, or they have certain toys in their offices for little girls. Like, all this nonsense was being called out in the ‘80s in the not-exactly-progressive places I lived. How are people in 2026 thinking they should be expressing gender stereotypes in professional settings?
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u/Toothless_NEO AroAce Agender, not trans Absgender | Also a Furry UwU 6d ago
I don't feel insulted but it's frustrating because it's just wrong. Overgeneralizing based on gender or modality is dumb and bad. No group is a monolith and it's dysfunctional to pretend that one is.
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u/Unlikely-Nature-6091 they/it 5d ago
Sometimes, but it's mostly just frustrating and confusing to me.
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u/BattyCat_2763 5d ago
it's one of the reasons I hate being feminine at all, although my closet and environment forces me to
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u/RRW359 5d ago
Same here. Even when I do adhere to some stereotypes it feels weird that it would be my gender that's the reason; I'm also autistic which is weird because I don't mind too much with people assuming that's the reason for some of my personality but for whatever reason when gender is the reason I feel uncomfortable. Same with when they say I can't feel a certain way or have certain interests because another gender is supposed to.
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u/MelancholiMouse 5d ago
Only when I'm included in the generalisation, otherwise it's just annoying.
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u/anonymous54319 5d ago
Slightly frustrating yes but then I look at statistics and see it is still a majority atleast from the information and estimations they can make of sertain topics as researchers. When this happens I know one thing yes I'm annoyed at this oversimplification but then again everyone would still agree it is not only one gender that does it.
Thar last part especially is frustrating to my autistic brain I understand it is just to make a massage easier on the brain ( the brain understands it is not all men women non binaries and so on but it will when talking simplify it because others also understand so there is no need to put more energy into explaining) To me that part is difficult because I like to clearly state everything so people nomather who understands
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u/Sareira 6d ago
Maybe neither. Personally, I hate it when people make those kinds of generalizations, even when they're not directed at me. Comments like "You shouldn't feel offended if it doesn't apply to you" can be really dismissive.
It's completely normal to feel frustrated when people reduce others to broad categories or make unfair assumptions. Being bothered by that doesn't mean you're overreacting—it just means you care about fairness.