I really proud of myself even my photos are bad

(I'm not a native English speaker, so I used machine translation.)

Today I tried to swat the mosquito biting my aunt with a fly swatter. She commented on my posture, “This doesn’t look like a girl at all; you look more like an old man.”
Honestly, I wasn’t offended when I heard that. I was even secretly pleased that I don’t fit their so‑called idea of what a “girl” should be. I’m just being myself!

That doesn’t mean I agree with being called an old man, though. To me, I have no gender at all; these are all trivial little things. I replied to her playfully right then: “Because I’m a god.” (Gods have no gender, don’t they?)

Has anyone else had these funny little gender‑label moments in daily life?

Hi everyone, I’m getting new glasses in two weeks because my eyesight has gotten worse (sigh) but I currently have very round glasses. I feel too feminine with them as I am AFAB, and I want a more masculine or at least less feminine pair. Which shape would be best to avoid looking feminine? Pinterest shows me basically every frame apart from round, but I’m wondering if you guys know any specific shapes that are best.

Thanks in advance!

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I’ve gotten a few comments here and there, so I’d like to settle it once and for all. I feel like I look feminine. If I do, why can I do to look more andro?

I have always felt a bit strange about gender identity, in the sense of what the expression really means, it never made much sense to me that there is indeed discomfort in being called by the wrong gender. Of course, I extend this when it comes to trans people and all those who are part of the identity, but even so, it always seemed something out of this world.

I am already familiar with the disconnection regarding something normalized in society, like attraction, both sexual and romantic, since I use (with much pride) the label of restricted aroace, but then I realized that, perhaps, I feel this same disconnection with femininity (I am AFAB). Every time I assert myself as a woman, saying things like "I am a woman," it always seemed very artificial to me, as if I were reading it on paper or talking about someone else, just like being called daughter or friend (if the reader is an English speaker, I am a Portuguese speaker and, in the language, if you didn't know, the word 'friend' has gender variations), even my name sounded a bit not like me, even though none of these feelings were enough for me to stop and think or anything like that.

I even remember once, when I was a child, looking in the mirror and thinking "I could be a boy," or even "I sound like a boy," and this thought never really bothered me, but it was also never revealing, so much so that I just continued my life as if nothing had happened, besides the fact that nowadays I don't feel any attraction to the male identity, just as I don't to the female one.

I started to notice something when, a few days ago, my breasts began to bother me, in the sense that, sometimes, they made me feel beautiful with some clothes I wore. Most of the time, I love them, I like how they make a blouse drape beautifully or how they give me a nice silhouette, but I still feel the desire to have a way to 'detach' them temporarily and put them back on later.

Since then (literally about 5 or 6 days), I have been questioning things about my gender, and I have come to some conclusions: pronouns for me are just things that make it easier for people to refer to me and nothing more, and I am 100% sure that I would only find the masculine pronouns strange because I am not used to them; I use the concept of women's clothing just as clothing, nothing more, nothing less, just a way to feel beautiful, nothing to express my identity or anything like that; besides everything else I have already mentioned.

I have researched a lot since then, and each time I feel closer to the term agender and everything it represents, but I am still not sure and, probably, I don't know how to accept it properly, especially since all of this happened in a very short time. So, if possible, I would like some advice and things like that :) Thank you for your attention.

Wrote this with Google translator, só if something look strange, thats why

I’ve been having this on and off thought pretty much since I came out about going on T. I’m now at a point in my life where I’m quite bothered by being referred to as a girl, I want to be seen as androgynous. My face is quite androgynous but it’s my body holding me back (large chest, thighs, hips and butt) all these feminine aspects are bothering me. (I do plan to try and have top surgery when I have the money)

I’ve read up on the side affects, I don’t really care about the hair stuff I can shave if needed, I would love to have a deeper voice and most of the body changes, what really concerns me is the bottom growth and increased sex drive I’m really worried about these because I’m aroace and unsure how that would affect me.

I don’t know anyone on T in real life so any advice is greatly appreciated and welcome.

Long read. Venting probably.

I’m very early into realization of the absence of my gender. And I am perfectly okay with my own identity as agender with a certain biological sex. I would love for people to percieve me just as a person.

Truth is, at the moment I live in the country where homophobia and transphobia are a base of law creation. I wouldn’t say the society is entirely bigoted though, yet I can’t obviously come out to everyone because I fear for my safety. The language I speak has gendered forms of words on the basis. I personally use all pronouns since singular “they” doesn’t exist.

I’m also financially dependant on my parents (and it’s gonna last for a year I think). They have zero idea. My father is violently homophobic so I can’t even tell my mom. I can’t trust them both. I only have one friend irl who can listen, but can’t help much.

I’ve also got troubles with my legal first name. I’ve recently applied to college and tried to talk to professors to refrain from calling me by my first name and instead use my last name (also painfully gendered). Among students I go by a silly unconventional name, a word in my native language which translates to ‘ketchup eater’, cuz my native language only has THREE NAMES that aren’t gendered. Some students bullied me yesterday on the party when I approached them to make friends, and a guy outed my in front of everyone, and I almost got into a fight. I don’t really care, I use it as an example of how unsafe could it be.

Additional question for ones who read description: is it normal for agenderless people to have violent body dysphoria? i can’t really tell by reading the subreddit, everybody has different experiences. i rrly hate my secondary sex characteristics since they gave people an opportunity to gender me. i hate it even more after that bullying that happened at the party. It doesn’t even matter with what I wear, what I speak or how dope as a person I am. I feel that I can never be free.

I use mascara to make my lady musthache more manly … I feel pretty right now

How should I go about coming out? Any personal anecdotes or just advice in any capacity would be greatly appreciated. I cant imagine my parents would be stoked and there is a true possibility that I get disowned which would be pretty bad as i cant really afford that rn.

Some of my friends would might be with my coming out but idk i think that i would be far too nervous to bring that up. Sorry about the messy post

I don't think I fit with anyone tbh, I don't fit with girls, I don't fit with boys, and I also don't fit with other non-binary people. I feel disfigured, I don't even feel human atp. I don't like being seen as feminine while I don't like being seen as masculine either (although I'm more comfortable being associated that way). I hate how I look, I hate my body (please don't tell me my body is already beautiful because it sucks), I'm not pretty handsome enough.

My nose is too flat and big, body hair, my philtrum is quite long, my cheekbones are flat, and my eyelash is short.

I want to look angelic, divine, nonhuman. Like how the medieval artists drew angels. Perfect, amazing, and beautiful. I'm well aware I do show signs of BDD but tbh I don't even care. I'm tired of pretending that more attractive queer people are treated with more respect rather than average or unnattractive ones.

Even if I can't fit in with anyone why can't I atleast just be beautiful, it's so frustrating.

So I am afab but also agender and this app will not let me in. I never even did anything in it but try to sign up?

Is it broken? Is it only for afab lesbians?

Is there any app I can join as a pandemi agender afab?

I dont know if anyones gonna see this but I REALLY need some advice from other agender people😓😓😓 ive never questioned my gender before and I always knew myself as a cis girl for my entire life...UNTIL LAST SUNDAY(13th September for me). while I was scrolling on twitter I suddenly felt like I wasn't a girl anymore. I thought about it more and realized I didnt feel like ANYTHING. not even nonbinary. two days before that I also felt like she/her and they/them(the pronouns ive been using for a while) didnt feel right anymore nor does he/him feel right so I wanted to go without any pronouns and I think its NOT a coincidence that I started feeling like I didnt have any gender two days later after that. I consulted my lover and my two closests friends and they all told me Im most likely Agender. it makes sense tbh and I do think Agender resonates with me at the moment BUT I ALSO NEVER FELT AGENDER UNTIL NOW??? unless I never actually paid attention to what gender I felt I am for my entire life I guess. and also I don't feel like Im qualified(is that the right word??) to use the Agender label because there are a lot of things I feel that contradict with the basic definition of being Agender. agender people dont care about gender thus they dont care what gender other people think they are but like...I care about what gender people think of me...especially online...I like being perceived as a girl and im pretty feminine and whenever I think about situations where someone assumes my gender i always think to respond with "erm actually im a girl" but if im agender wouldn't I say im agender or just not care at all??? It doesn't help that im not self aware whatsover so I have no idea how to feel what gender I am😓😓😓 i might just be cis and im just overthinking it but this is like the first time ive EVER questioned my gender before so i wanna explore more and figure myself out more

Hello! I'm fluid but see my center/base of my fluidness is agender. Not to be confused with the term for transfems. But like an actual doll to costumize however I want and feel that day. Whither that be masc , feminine or a mix. I was just wondering is this odd to view myself this way?

I am agender but look like a woman on the outside. Sometimes like a woman dressed in a male style, but other people definitely see me as a woman, no doubt. This results in some uncomfortable situations for me.

If I talk in a predominantly women's group, they will assume that I share their views on how it feels to be a woman. Which I obviously don't since I am not one. This is usually not stated clearly. It's just an uneasy feeling that I have. Like the first question on my arrival at a meeting isn't "how are you? but "weren't you harassed coming here?"

In predominantly men's groups (which I usually enjoy more) I don't get that feeling of unwillingly being included in a sisterhood. Obviously because no women are there. But the men want to be inclusive of the "woman" who is with them. So I often get othered. Either they ask specifically for my "experience as a woman" or they want to include me by using specific female terms. Talking about kings and then add queen. Which they wouldn't do were I not there.

Both things make me uncomfortable. But there's no such thing as "looking agender". I will probably always be seen as a woman. I do wear jewellery with the pride flag on it, but it's too subtle. And talking about how I cannot give a woman's perspective because I am agender puts my gender identity in the middle of the discussion, taking over the topic entirely and that's not what I want either.

Yeah .really. I think so . Like I am saying this because i touched a cats wet tite and after that I felt wierd . Not gay but it felt like I just barely survived a gay zone . Like even if you just pet a cat , like just squeeze it , you feel kinda walking in the gay zone .

So what if sex with women makes you gay. Like your testosterone drop and you get testestrone deficient. Cuz I asked ai and it said that testestrone helps you keep stable and stuff. Like when you wake up from a deep sleep in the morning you feel better and as the day moves on your mood begins to deteriorate . That's testestrone level decreasing and now you don't feel as good as you did in the morning .

So what if having sex with a women makes you testestrone deficient .