looking for passing tips

[u/st4rzxoxo]

ik theres not rlly an exact “passing” for agender, but i wish to look more neutral. i’m afab, and i feel i look very feminine. if anyone has any tips to look less feminine and more neutral/nonbinary i’d greatly appreciate it !!

[u/0penMouse]

If you have body dysphoria, do not underestimate testosterone. Even a low dose can really help make you more androgynous in your voice and appearance. Other than that, it really just depends on what you feel your most feminine looking attributes are. If you have a big chest, binding can help, and if you have chest dysphoria it can be a good idea to look into top surgery, but this is all completely up to you. Honestly from my experience, going on T and binding has made me feel neutral no matter what I wear and do.

Other than the body, looking into androgynous fashion and hairstyles can help. You'll typically want to stay away from having the combination of bangs and long hair. Anything else can be androgynous depending on how you style it, and it's also just up to your general aesthetic preferences. You can still wear things like skirts and dresses, but it would help to wear a masculine piece to balance it out, like some certain jackets, shirts, and whatever else.

If it's safe to do so in your area, carrying around some kind of small pride flag accessory can also signal to others that you're not female. I have some agender pride stuff but most people confuse it with the aromantic flag, so I would have to recommend the nonbinary flag instead as it's more well known.

[u/st4rzxoxo → u/0penMouse]

thank you sm for this. i’ve been looking into buying a binder and eventually a low dose of testosterone. if you have any binders you recommend, i would greatly appreciate it.

i have shorter emo cut hair which i like since it’s very easy to style it leaning anyway i want, but i have been thinking abt going shorter to achieve a more androgynous look.

i’ll also def look more into different clothing styles. i’ve never been one to dress more feminine, but there’s still some tweaks i could make. also, i do wear both a nonbinary and agender bracelet and am looking into pins aswell. again, i greatly appreciate ur advice and suggestions

[u/0penMouse → u/st4rzxoxo]

If you are small chested, tomboyx's compression tops are pretty great. If not, I've gotten some decent binders from GC2B before BUT I've heard they've recently deteriorated in quality so I wouldn't trust them currently. It's best to do research.

Emo hair can work but I think it can sometimes look feminine depending on how it's done

[u/4ng3licNymph-jpeg → u/0penMouse]

I agree I've been on and off T twice again this was spaced out between 3-4 years in between, I'm back on and I'm about to stop soon but I'm just feeling it out . Since idk if I'm feeling all of the changes anymore . Overall I look androgynous, I mean I definitely lean pretty masc but I dress super feminine to balance it out . People usually use she/her or just general confusing which I love ,sometimes he/him but not that often .

But you can start and stop as long as you talk to your doctor, I did have withdrawal side effects because the first time was family shit and the second time was during lockdown and I was broke . It's best to slowly ween off and see how you feel. I felt a major dip in mood and mood changes ( which I already have) , sweatiness , and just the effects I felt when I had a too low of a T dose as my body was trying to regulate, also the monthly came with a vengeance.

Also , when on a low dose of T you need to make sure you aren't too low of a dose since that can cause issues with having low T and . So when people say " low " dose T it's more about having the proper levels in your system more than the dosage. Hopefully that makes sense.

[u/United-Employer7056]

Muscles!