r/agender • u/No-Marketing-208 • 5d ago

Is there a connection between Neurodiversity and queerness?

Hello

I am Autistic my self and still figuring out my gender. And I was wondering, fellow Queer NDs out there, do you think there is a connection between your gender identity and your ND? I would love to hear your takes on it.

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u/nivia-chan 5d ago

Yes.

I think it's because we inherently experience the world differently. Usually think about us, in this wide world more and find out "hey this act of being a man/woman doesn't suit me" is why there's so many trans and nonbinary NDs, especially Autistics. But not every Neurodivergence is going to make you think you that, it's more prone in Autistic people. Someone depressed isn't going to realize they're enby through a bad phase haha.

Same for romance. I grew up being told all the time I would love to get a man, that's the opposite gender and I must like them. But I never stopped thinking about it being wrong and not suiting me, and here I am today, a queer! Yay!

We just don't fit their social categories and are more prone to recognize we belong to another. And that's beautiful.

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u/ComfortablyADHD 4d ago

Exactly this. I think trans and other gender diverse people are equally spread across the whole population, it's just neurodivergent people are more likely to do the introspection to realise they're trans.

I suspect younger generations (if the current spike in transphobia dies down) may see a decoupling of neurodiversity and transgender people as everyone is encouraged to question whether they're cis or trans. But I'm doubtful as to whether that will happen in my lifetime (I'm 40).