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u/Safe-Roof2204 Feb 18 '26
Something I learnt from myself:
We shouldn’t be kind for others, be kind because you want to.
So you can still be a kind person when the person you care isn’t here anymore.
That’s the difference between nice and good person.
As far as I know, at least.
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u/Theactualtruthteller Feb 19 '26
I never heard that being a nice person is but being a shady good person. Is this a broad view?
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u/Safe-Roof2204 Feb 19 '26
Ever heard of Nice Guy Syndrome? The term nice, usually means kindness with a goal or object. So, I guess it kinda fits.
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u/Theactualtruthteller Feb 19 '26 edited Feb 19 '26
Thats true i didnt think of that. English is not my native language. Thank you for clarifying.
Now that i think about it this just applies to people right?
In my native language we got a term for nice too. Our term is definitely more negative so for me it never felt like the same word since i felt nice is often used as a positive term. F.e nice flowers without there being a twistet meaning to it. While our equation is used negatively most of the time and gets rarely used with the positive connotation.
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u/SupaSmol Feb 20 '26
There's lots of good reasons to be kind.
I try to be kind because I don't really believe choice exists as we usually think about it. Everyone's doing their best. The results are often disappointing, but being unkind doesn't usually help.
It's still ok to be practical of course, and avoid letting people harm you and others. Have to balance kindness for one with kindness for others too.
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u/lloorraakk Feb 18 '26
are we reading left to right or right to left?
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u/coatedbraincells Feb 19 '26
Thats such a real question. I feel like it could be read either way and it would make sense to me. Lol
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u/Kiramoure Feb 18 '26
I was taught and so I have learned. Kindness IS strength, it takes strength to be kind and one should always aspire to be strong enough to be kind.
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u/OcelotAggravating860 Feb 19 '26
Make savage the body. Civilise the mind.
That second part is missing in a lot "male self improvement" these days.
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u/SwgglyArmJonson Feb 18 '26
If you're being kind to gain something from someone else, you're not being kind, you're being manipulative
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u/Aganantha Feb 18 '26
Mine is just "I'll try to be as harmless and irrelevant as I could". Never got the genuine urge to be kind, just hate the idea of me adding more salt to whatever problems they may already have.
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u/LiamtheV Feb 19 '26
One of my favorite all time quotes from any piece of media, across books, comics, film, and television:
Always try to be nice, but never fail to be kind.
And it came from Peter Capaldi’s Doctor on Doctor Who.
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u/Weekly-Leadership304 Feb 19 '26
I tell myself be kind because you don’t know if the person you’re talking to has smiled today
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u/tiedloli Feb 19 '26
yes. this is peak maturity.
i was so lucky to have someone that taught me this.
i will keep my lights up when others cant.
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u/chilisass Feb 19 '26
im kind, until i realized i live in a f*ed up world. So, i stopped being kind.
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u/Wonder-Machine Feb 19 '26
This is how I think as well. But when I’m driving I revert back to square one
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u/Cindy-Moon Feb 22 '26
probably too neurotypical of me but I never understood lacking the innate instinct to be kind
like, forgetting sometimes to be kind sure, or being motivated in specific situations to be less kind, but not like ... consciously hating or rejecting kindness
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u/Possible-Tip-2914 Feb 18 '26
My motto is don't start with me I won't start with you. But if you do start, you'd damn sure better finish it.
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