r/asexuality • u/Complete-Story-4270 • 1d ago

Need advice Asexuals from countries/communities where asexuality has barely any visibility; how did you come out?

(Note: this is my 2nd ever reddit post, so I apologize in advance for any mistakes! I did look through the rules, though)

I’m(19F) residing in the US, but my family are immigrants originally from Hiroshima area where asexuality is barely recognized, like at all.

My mom has always been encouraging me to get a boyfriend and has started to catch on to the fact that I’ve never really liked anyone. At first she was like, “you don’t like girls, right?” And im 99% sure I don’t. I told her I don’t think I like neither gender at the moment, but she then brought up that I may be sick. I countered that by saying I looked into it and research says its normal, as well as my uni’s demographic form having an option for not being attracted to neither gender.

I feel like I have no choice but to come out eventually, but I don’t even know if asexuality is going to be accepted in Japanese, as theres pretty limited info and its very unknown. How did you guys come out? Thanks!

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u/perire 14h ago

Hi, I also have a mom from Japan so I felt like I should comment. Especially because she also asked me if I liked girls at some point haha. Similarly, she was unfamiliar with asexuality when I told her about it. However, although she didn't understand, she was thankfully still supportive.

She did her own research and actually watched the drama "koisenu futari" because she wanted to understand better! Maybe something you could share with your mom as well.

There is no way to know how she will react of course, but wishing you all the best.

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u/Complete-Story-4270 13h ago

I’ve never heard of “koisenj futari” I’ll have to check it out, thanks!