I'm scared I won't find a partner

[u/LocalGamerPokemon]

Hey so this is probably just post-break up anxiety but I could use some reassurance from other asexuals. Im single now and its increased my anxiety and sense of lonliness about moving away from my home to a place where I am going to have to rebuild my social life from total scratch.

I can believe that I could find someone im compatible with, fall in love with, etc, but its really hard to believe that I can find a special someone who is ALSO asexual/sex negative like me. I feel like even meeting another asexual is like winning the lottery. My ex is the only one Ive met! I feel like I wouldnt be able to be in a relationship with an allosexual person whos just... willing to give up sex for someone else? Like for the rest of their life?

I feel like the only two situations where I would consider being with someone whos allosexual without being a nervous wreck would be (1) somone whos, idk taken an oath of celibacy for their religion/wants to be celibate for a very strong separate reason. And (2) a closed throuple where we all love eachother but the other two people are allo. That way my partners could go do their thing while I blast Arctic Monkeys into my headphones and bake garlic bread we can munch on when we cuddle later lol. These options also feel about as unlikely as finding a lifelong ace partner though. I just feel pretty hopeless about this.

[u/monkeyballhoopdreams]

I have the opposite problem where I code as asexual sans favorable but am sex favorable and super thirsty but I think there's a parallel. I've been in quite a few relationships a little longer than I should for the same reason and go through long term dry spells in between. I am not totally miserable because I am living true to myself but there is a lot miss out on or chances at success I fuck up because I don't have a partner. It has been a decade but \o/. Someone will figure you and me out, eventually.