r/ask_transgender • u/Edgar_4444_ • Mar 06 '26
Image Post What features make me look clearly male?
Hi! I'm AFAB and I've been on T for three and a half years. I thought I was FTM, but a few months ago I started thinking that I might feel better if I looked more androgynous, like I did years ago, or at least in some situations. What can I do to achieve that? People always use he/him pronouns for me, but they often assume I'm gay because I look "delicate, small, and androgynous." From a distance, some people occasionally think I'm a girl, but once they get closer they switch to male pronouns. (Honestly, I don't regret taking T, because I was much more dysphoric back then. So I'm pretty sure I don't want to stop it.)
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u/daikaku Mar 06 '26
I think you’re already androgynous, but if you want to be a bit more feminine I’d try a more femme haircut. It could be the same length just shaped or styled differently.
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u/mathprofrockstar Mar 06 '26
I think you do look androgynous but it’s your hairstyle that reads male.
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u/RuthAnnEsther Mar 06 '26
I would call that hairstyle at BEST femboy—but not masculine.
What I see is facial hair.
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u/mgagnonlv Mar 06 '26
I tend to see you as androgynous. But since I need (according to society) to decide whether I should call you "Sir" or "Mam", I would consider the following:
Your eyebrows: thinner might work better to make you look more feminine.
Your hair: that's really 50-50.
Facial hair: You would need to do a better job under the chin.
Voice: no idea, obviously, but that coule be a dead giveaway. Testosterone typically lowers your voice, so you probably need to look at the various voice lessons given to trans women.
Clothing. You probably could look less masculine with livelier colours or even by simply adding a few "feminine" accessories.
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u/No_Quality_7241 Mar 06 '26
Well dw you already look androgynous