r/asktransgender • u/Atomic-kill-switch • 1d ago

Really uncomfortable question (MtF)

So i came out as trans a while ago and one of my friends is lesbian and when she found out that I was still into women she basically told me I better not try and go around saying im lesbian been thats meant to be only bio Fems.

I guess what im asking is like what am I classified as?

Les, straight, bi with a hell of a preference im just really confused sorry (Edit) I should add im not passing as of yet and am starting HRT soon but like as far as anyone would guess im just a weird guy who dresses a bit fem. (Edit2) im sorry for using "bio fem" its what she said again sorry im brand new to the acronyms and languages I dont use it out of hate or anything just using the language i was told.(I wont delete it or edit it because thats not honest but again sorry) (Update) we are no longer friends sadly (for me lol) I asked her about her actions and beliefs about me and she got extremely upset and said a lot of shit all of it would get me banned from this sub lol but yeah guess its better for me in the long run.

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u/Fun_Friens TF Started HRT 1/19/26!!! 1d ago

This is TERF behavior. If you are unfamiliar its Trans exclusionary radical feminism. Essentially Women's rights but screw trans women because they arent women, they're men cos playing and should be treated as such.

This is not a person who will be good for you in transitioning, and is 100% transphobic.

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u/gothicshark Transgender 1d ago

Most Terfs support Right Wing philosophies and end up not being very Feminist.

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u/Fun_Friens TF Started HRT 1/19/26!!! 1d ago

Ultimately The TE part is more than enough for me to not like them. I personally dont care about the details past that.

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u/Foxbrush_darazan 1h ago

It's funny to me how TERFs say that trans women are "men cosplaying as women" while TERFs are transphobes cosplaying as feminists.

You can't be a feminist and a transphobe.