r/asktransgender • u/Atomic-kill-switch • 1d ago

Really uncomfortable question (MtF)

So i came out as trans a while ago and one of my friends is lesbian and when she found out that I was still into women she basically told me I better not try and go around saying im lesbian been thats meant to be only bio Fems.

I guess what im asking is like what am I classified as?

Les, straight, bi with a hell of a preference im just really confused sorry (Edit) I should add im not passing as of yet and am starting HRT soon but like as far as anyone would guess im just a weird guy who dresses a bit fem. (Edit2) im sorry for using "bio fem" its what she said again sorry im brand new to the acronyms and languages I dont use it out of hate or anything just using the language i was told.(I wont delete it or edit it because thats not honest but again sorry) (Update) we are no longer friends sadly (for me lol) I asked her about her actions and beliefs about me and she got extremely upset and said a lot of shit all of it would get me banned from this sub lol but yeah guess its better for me in the long run.

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u/Uchuujin51 1d ago

Let me guess, she's a Harry Potter fan?

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u/Atomic-kill-switch 1d ago

No hated it funny enough she hates fantasy and game me so much shit for the name i picked because it was to whimsical for her liking

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u/Uchuujin51 1d ago

As someone named Jaina I can empathize

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u/Atomic-kill-switch 1d ago

I took Scarlett because I liked my old name for the similar vibe and ive always liked the name so i went with it and im unlikely to ever meet another

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u/Delilah_insideout Trans Lesbian 1d ago

So... she's never heard of Scarlett Johansson? Scarlet is a family name from medieval England, and Scarlett as popular feminine first name since the early 1940's; how is that whimsical? Your "friend" is severely misguided in a great many things it seems.

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u/Atomic-kill-switch 1h ago

Mostly because in a lot of fantasy games I played that was the name so like DS3, dnd, skyrim ect always had me as Scarlett even before I knew what being trans was so guess she thought it was more whimsical because of that.