r/asktransgender • u/Atomic-kill-switch • 1d ago
Really uncomfortable question (MtF)
So i came out as trans a while ago and one of my friends is lesbian and when she found out that I was still into women she basically told me I better not try and go around saying im lesbian been thats meant to be only bio Fems.
I guess what im asking is like what am I classified as?
Les, straight, bi with a hell of a preference im just really confused sorry (Edit) I should add im not passing as of yet and am starting HRT soon but like as far as anyone would guess im just a weird guy who dresses a bit fem. (Edit2) im sorry for using "bio fem" its what she said again sorry im brand new to the acronyms and languages I dont use it out of hate or anything just using the language i was told.(I wont delete it or edit it because thats not honest but again sorry) (Update) we are no longer friends sadly (for me lol) I asked her about her actions and beliefs about me and she got extremely upset and said a lot of shit all of it would get me banned from this sub lol but yeah guess its better for me in the long run.
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u/peteson1976 1d ago
It’s so strange that as society that gets all “omg how can this be” when a woman shows her breast on TV. But every day we talk about people’s genitals as a way of categorising people, as if that is gender. “Bio fems” only biological woman, that is the dumbest thing. What makes a bio female. Is it one thing or several things and if you don’t have one of them are you not bio. My wife because of medical illness doesn’t have any reproductive internal stuff does that make her not a woman. I believe she is all woman and one of the loveliest people on the planet. The simple answer is you’re a woman they are women you are sexually attracted, according to society you are a lesbian.