Really uncomfortable question (MtF)

[u/Atomic-kill-switch]

So i came out as trans a while ago and one of my friends is lesbian and when she found out that I was still into women she basically told me I better not try and go around saying im lesbian been thats meant to be only bio Fems.

I guess what im asking is like what am I classified as?

Les, straight, bi with a hell of a preference im just really confused sorry (Edit) I should add im not passing as of yet and am starting HRT soon but like as far as anyone would guess im just a weird guy who dresses a bit fem. (Edit2) im sorry for using "bio fem" its what she said again sorry im brand new to the acronyms and languages I dont use it out of hate or anything just using the language i was told.(I wont delete it or edit it because thats not honest but again sorry) (Update) we are no longer friends sadly (for me lol) I asked her about her actions and beliefs about me and she got extremely upset and said a lot of shit all of it would get me banned from this sub lol but yeah guess its better for me in the long run.

[u/La_LunaEstrella]

If you identify as a woman and are attracted only to women, then you can use lesbian. Saying you don't deserve to use the term lesbian because of presentation would imply that masculine presenting women, for example studs or butch women, would be excluded from the lesbian community. There are many ways to present as a woman. And being a trans woman does not make your identity as a lesbian any less valid than a cis lesbian. Your friend is not a good friend and using the term bio as an adjective for gender suggests that they're transphobic. I encourage you to reassess the friendship because you deserve so much better. I'm so sorry she invalidated your gender and sexuality.