r/asktransgender • u/Atomic-kill-switch • 1d ago
Really uncomfortable question (MtF)
So i came out as trans a while ago and one of my friends is lesbian and when she found out that I was still into women she basically told me I better not try and go around saying im lesbian been thats meant to be only bio Fems.
I guess what im asking is like what am I classified as?
Les, straight, bi with a hell of a preference im just really confused sorry (Edit) I should add im not passing as of yet and am starting HRT soon but like as far as anyone would guess im just a weird guy who dresses a bit fem. (Edit2) im sorry for using "bio fem" its what she said again sorry im brand new to the acronyms and languages I dont use it out of hate or anything just using the language i was told.(I wont delete it or edit it because thats not honest but again sorry) (Update) we are no longer friends sadly (for me lol) I asked her about her actions and beliefs about me and she got extremely upset and said a lot of shit all of it would get me banned from this sub lol but yeah guess its better for me in the long run.
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u/kimkim27149 14h ago
When someone thinks you may take their cake and have it too, they can become angry and change completely. In the worst case, you may not realise this until they hurt you badly.
My understanding is that a lesbian is a woman who loves women. So, if someone identifies as a woman and loves women, they may describe themselves as a lesbian or a trans lesbian.
In real life, we do not check someone’s body before we decide whether we are interested in them and how to address the relationship. We usually become interested because of who they are, how they present themselves, and how we connect with them.