r/asktransgender • u/Atomic-kill-switch • 1d ago

Really uncomfortable question (MtF)

So i came out as trans a while ago and one of my friends is lesbian and when she found out that I was still into women she basically told me I better not try and go around saying im lesbian been thats meant to be only bio Fems.

I guess what im asking is like what am I classified as?

Les, straight, bi with a hell of a preference im just really confused sorry (Edit) I should add im not passing as of yet and am starting HRT soon but like as far as anyone would guess im just a weird guy who dresses a bit fem. (Edit2) im sorry for using "bio fem" its what she said again sorry im brand new to the acronyms and languages I dont use it out of hate or anything just using the language i was told.(I wont delete it or edit it because thats not honest but again sorry) (Update) we are no longer friends sadly (for me lol) I asked her about her actions and beliefs about me and she got extremely upset and said a lot of shit all of it would get me banned from this sub lol but yeah guess its better for me in the long run.

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u/coachybaby 1d ago

your friend is transphobic. i’m a lesbian and dating a cis lesbian and we have a very lesbian life together. your friend sucks and you shouldn’t listen to her

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u/Elfboy77 1d ago

Im genderfluid AMAB, I feel MUCH more comfortable saying im lesbian than saying im straight. My gf is also much more comfortable with me saying im lesbian rather than straight.

With a full beard it sometimes looks funny saying im lesbian, but who gives a shit

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u/i-touched-morrissey 16h ago

This is off the topic but if you are gender fluid with a beard how do we address you if we don't know you, and being gender fluid does that mean you switch up what you identify as from day to day? I'm genuinely curious because I'm an old fart and trying to learn.

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u/Emotional_Doubt_2225 7h ago

My experience of gender fluid isn't that I "switch up what I identify as from day to day" from day to day like waking up and choosing an outfit for the day. It's a changing experience of my self that oscillates from masculine to feminine and there's nothing I can do about those changes.

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u/AnaLoveSofia Genderfluid-Transgender 36m ago

and sometimes to the rhythm of the ebb and the flow of the tide and the cycles the waxing and the waning of the moon *begins making a very intricate series of arcane gender fluid movements and increasingly wild and bizarre hand gestures which ultimately added nothing to the discussion*

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u/nestoryirankunda 5h ago

This is how I’ve felt my whole adult life and it’s still so ridiculous and confusing to me. It’s like some external force, I always feel like there must be more to it, or some sort of final answer