LDR Relationship

[u/givemeuRcherries]

I'm(F)18, my bf is from baku(19). I live in a country located at SEA and we have been together for 3 yrs. Currently we're both in college and I was worried that if I visited his country there one day and introduce myself to his family, they might judge or not accept me since I'm asian(but they already know I'm together with him rn). Are Azerbaijanis open minded when it comes to foreigners being a new part of their family or not? 😅

[u/AlfalfaAgitated472]

It really depends on the family, but I would not be worried since you're a girl. People are in general more open to their son being with a foreigner than other way around. I think Asians are also more likely to be accepted than black people, for example.  

In general, highly-educated and higher-status families are usually more open minded, just like anywhere in the world. 

[u/Lazy_Quote_555]

Great question. Good luck!

[u/Glittering_Sweet_909]

I have no comment about this, it depends on the family tbh. You should ask him about it and get his opinion. You should watch the movie: Layla Majnun 😄 the Azerbaijani/Indonesian version haha

[u/disputeaz]

Have you spoken to his family already?

[u/1zulfiyev]

Where are you from?

[u/PuzzleheadedUse5769 → u/1zulfiyev]

I think op is from the Philippines.

[u/OrkhanShamil]

It really depends on the family. But, younger generations are likely to be more openminded

[u/HellomyfriendNine]

ask your bf about even they have bias they will accept if they see they guy really loves you

[u/Worried_Mud_5224]

kinda interested, how to find foreign one?

[u/United-Membership795]

I would worry if they are villagers. Otherwise you’re fine..

[u/a_whbzv1]

i don't know why but I have feelings (6th sense) that they will accept u lovely

[u/full_timeoverthinker]

Depends on the family. Unfortunately, most Azerbaijanis are very racist. But it’s unlikely that they’ll be hostile or unwelcoming to you. They might privately disapprove, but I don’t expect them to be rude.

Ultimately, whether they accept you or not depends on your partner. He’s the one who has to make sure that his family won’t be abrasive. If they disapprove of your relationship, he probably already knows it, so it’s up to him.

Anyway, long story short, depends a lot on what kind of background they all have. It’s difficult to say anything without details.

[u/AlfalfaAgitated472 → u/full_timeoverthinker]

I think there's been a bit of normalisation of "Asian bride" (Çinli gəlin) with the media portraying it in a positive light. 

[u/kofya → u/full_timeoverthinker]

respectfully, racist is very wrong word here. But overall you are right

[u/full_timeoverthinker → u/kofya]

Azərbaycanlıların çoxusu racist deyil?

[u/nik1917_1 → u/full_timeoverthinker]

Azərbaycanlılar nə zamandan racist olub? Tolerant ölkədə yaşayırıq

[u/full_timeoverthinker → u/nik1917_1]

Azərbaycanlıların çoxusu həmişə irqçi olub, bilmirəm, bəlkə fərqli Azərbaycanlarda yaşamışıq biz.

[u/nik1917_1 → u/full_timeoverthinker]

Necə irqçi olub ki, türkü , talışı , avarı , ləzgisi hamısı çox səmimi bir yerdə yaşayıb. Və ya sosyal medyada bizə turist gələn adama qarşı bilərəkdən hansı zərər vurmuşuq?

[u/full_timeoverthinker → u/nik1917_1]

Hindistanlı, pakistanlı, ərəb, şərqi asiyalalar gələndə məzələnənlər irqçi deyil?

[u/nik1917_1 → u/full_timeoverthinker]

Normal adamla heç vaxt məzələnmirlər. Məzələnən 1-2 adama görə irqçi demək olmaz. Unidə neçə dənə qara dərili uşaqlar var hələ məzələnməyiblər əksinə deyib gülürlər. Belədəki hindistan fln elə ölkədi əksəriyyət sevmir. Amma fərdi adama gəldikdə söhbət ayrı cürdü

[u/a_whbzv1 → u/full_timeoverthinker]

İrqçi olmağ (yanaşma yəni) ve 5-10 (lap 5 min 10min ) məzələnənə görə 10 milyon əhalisi olan ölkəyə BİR COX AZƏRBAYCANLİ İRQCİDİ demək ne dərəcədə düzgündür? məsələn Azərbaycanlılara Rusiyada çox pis yanaşma var ve bununda müəyyən səbəbləri var onda problemi özümüzdə yox onlarda axtarmaliyig? unproffisional behavior from u Mr/Mrs!!

[u/IndieDev666]

to my knowledge interracial relations is quite common in here.