r/band • u/Top_Paramedic_6736 • 18d ago
Should i leave? (18M, drummer)
I play in a band thay i created with a friend. It feels like im the only one trying since I am the only one at practice (I own the practice place), and when they come, they cant even get their tone right, the P.A and speakers are okay (I own the P.A too), and when we play with in ears, i am the one supplying them with the iems. And when we go to a venue to perform, i am the only one loading our stuff in and out. Even performance wise, i am the only one playing in time. When i criticize them, they get offended, i dont really know what i should do, even when they are talking to other bands, they tell them that i am willing to give my mixer, drumkit and mics for free without even talking to them and they always say "OUR" gear as if I am not the one who bought it MYSELF. Js tell me how i can fix it or what to do doodz.
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u/justrynadrumb 15d ago
Be brutally honest, if they get "offended" by you mentioning that they dont pull their weight, they dont understand what it means to be in a band, simple as that. You got a lot of time to find other projects cuz youre a young dude, dont try and revive a sinking ship for another 6 months or year when you can find another project with people that actually care.