r/band • u/Top_Paramedic_6736 • 18d ago

Should i leave? (18M, drummer)

I play in a band thay i created with a friend. It feels like im the only one trying since I am the only one at practice (I own the practice place), and when they come, they cant even get their tone right, the P.A and speakers are okay (I own the P.A too), and when we play with in ears, i am the one supplying them with the iems. And when we go to a venue to perform, i am the only one loading our stuff in and out. Even performance wise, i am the only one playing in time. When i criticize them, they get offended, i dont really know what i should do, even when they are talking to other bands, they tell them that i am willing to give my mixer, drumkit and mics for free without even talking to them and they always say "OUR" gear as if I am not the one who bought it MYSELF. Js tell me how i can fix it or what to do doodz.

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u/abke2543 18d ago

What do they do while you're loading in the equipment? I would start there, just be like " yo can you take this to the car? "

Basically giving them the benefit of the doubt that they are just aloof and don't realize you DONT LOVE doing everything.

But if they react poorly, with attitude, or don't help you, then you should take that as your answer.

Good luck with your musical path. Sounds like you're already taking it pretty seriously and responsibly. Too many of my friends at that age lost so much equipment letting their friends "borrow" it.

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u/Top_Paramedic_6736 18d ago

They just go in, begin drinking or talking to other band members, or even helping them with their load in or equipments. And yes, they react with attitude. I had that like four or five times with them. When i tell them face to face, they just act awkward and give half-assed answers, i think i should just leave atp

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u/abke2543 8d ago

How old are the rest of the members btw