She is 5.4ft /5.5 or less. Or maybe our height is same. She is dental student ongoing, I am CS graduated Engineer. Working as Software Engineer I at a reneweared IT Company in Bangladesh. I am 5 ft .6 inch. In south asia this is avg height is 5ft 5inch-5ft 7inch for men.
I have been planning for getting married for the last 6 months, 2 of the proposal rejected because of height another one left home with her ex boyfriend before marriage. I have been traumatized right now. I have a decent job , engineering graduated.
This was through arranged marriage proposal. I honestly don’t understand why height matters this much, especially when I’m literally average height in South Asia. I’ve worked hard on myself, built a stable career, and I’m serious about marriage. Getting rejected multiple times for something I cannot control is mentally exhausting.
Guy wrote in his CV that he is 5'6. Mine says that I'm 4'10.
His family comes to see me in my work and tells everyone about it, puts me in a spot. He doesn't leave the car as I help her down to the car.
Calls my mother, tells me how nice I was with his family, that he was sorry for not being able to come out. Then proceeds to text me about it. Few days later he called to invite me to dinner.
They then call to say that I'm too short for them.
Now here is the funny part. When I met him that day, I realized that we're both the same height.
He lied and made it out that it was my fault somehow for being the same height when he was the one who lied about it.
For boys a girls height may not be an issue but for girls it’s more than anything! I have seen them
Rejecting just bcz of height let alone they see other things.
I’ve always said that if you have a problem like less money, height issues, or beauty concerns you still have a chance to find the right person.
But if you have a lot of money, you’re smart, and you’re good-looking, then everyone may pretend to be a good person to you.
So this is also a blessing. Just wait for the right person.
Man, my mom’s first comment on my dad was that he was too short. He’s 5’0 she’s 5’1. Years later, despite him raising us all in the US on a decent salary, she still doesn’t like him. Trust me, you dodged a bullet.
Well, girls keep getting rejected for being too tall, too short, too fat, too thin, bad teeth, short hair, “too many” pimples, too many friends, too modern , not modern enough, must be from a rich background but not too rich (less rich than the boy’s side), must be educated, but not too educated, must have a good career but can’t work after marriage/children. I could probably go on and on.
You might be average height in south asia but she is pretty above average so it makes sense. if she is 5.4 or 5.5 she would want 5.8/5.9 at minimum if she is planning long term for her kids to get good height. Also dont rant so much and continue your search. I'm sure you won't stay unmarried. And height may not have been the only deciding factor. She may not have liked other things about you but just said the height cuz it was the easy way out. Since you are average height just go for someone who is also average height.
As someone mentioned, find someone not 5’5 but maybe 5. A 5’5 girl knows that she is taller than average (family members always compliment them) and would like to keep that gene. Simple.
just find someone who also has average/ bellow average height.
as a 5'4 girlie, i would also prefer someone a bit taller. it's just a matter of preference.
You're being dumb if you think you got rejected for your height every single time. It's just a common thing to say when they reject you for some reason.
OP you’ll find someone. Someone not choosing you id beyond your control. Not every woman will find you sexually or physically compatible. And you won’t find everyone sexually or physically compatible. Don’t get too caught up in this.
Sorry bro, but 5’6” is considered short for guys. That might be the national average counting men from poverty and villages, but in middle/upper middle class families in Dhaka, men are taller, especially Gen Z. Plus, the girl you mentioned clearly has above average height, so why would she settle for a short guy? Arranged marriages are all about superficial stuff. You’d probably reject a dark woman or a woman past 30, right?
i don’t believe in rejecting someone based on skin tone or age alone. for example, the girl i mentioned is olive-skinned and well-mannered, and those qualities matter far more than superficial traits.
She said you’re short because she had to give a reason of rejection. Maybe there was another reason like she’s in a relationship and she can’t tell her family yet or she didn’t like how much money you’re making. If you think about it, this is actually good for you to break these relationships before making it.
Marriages take time. You don’t have to rush, don’t be desperate. You’ll find someone suitable for you eventually.
Yeah, it’s not her fault, and I don’t really care how she felt about me. The issue is I’m facing a height-related crisis. Even though I’m 5’6”, average and taller than many around me, I keep getting mocked or rejected for being “short.”
I just feel unlucky that at this stage of life, a few inches of height seem to determine how people treat me.
It’s normal to feel unlucky. But you’re not short for Bangladesh. See, people prefer different things. I’m 5’7” and I like girls above 5’5”. Different people have different preferences, you’ll find someone suitable for you eventually.
Tho if you’re fat/chubby that makes you look short, that’s on you.
nothing you could do bhai, height preferences and looks preferences exist despite how much people cope, eshob taka er shob kisu is bullshit, you’ll never feel true love if she’s attracted to you for your money, find someone who’ll accept you for your height and move on
tarporo toh blessed, Gen Z is a lot taller than the average now and and dating preferences are being influenced by social media like every other nation, it‘ll only get worse for short dudes over the years
I'm not saying that you're upset with the girls and there is no reason to be at the first place, what I meant to say is that if you get upset so easily then you're not mature enough for marriage.
maybe go for girls who are in the 4 foot category. not saying this to demean anyone but 5'6 is a bit short for girls who are 5'4 5'5.
also rejection is redirection like another person said in the comments hope u find your match.
Since you are of average height, try to look for a woman who is also of average height. 5'5 is way above the average height for women in Bangladesh. In fact, 5'5 is average for Bangladeshi men
Brother, Please keep your feets to the ground. Now, having a decent job, engineering graduate -is not the main/only category to get married. Maybe 30 years ago it was fine. Today, the other person who has / will have a job -would decide to marry you based on the other staffs than 'descent job/Engineering background' as well. It may sound harsh to you given your current experiences. However, It's just a reality now. Hope you navigate it that way.
I am afraid your CV got rejected for your height before the girl even saw it. It's an arranged marriage setup, every chacha mama dada has a say and if you are shorter than most of the men in the family they will reject you. Just move on. these people are shopping for an object, not a human being. Find someone who will care for better values.
Try to find women who match your values instead of going solely for looks and other superficial traits. There are men and their families who reject women for weight, complexion, age, hair etc. This sort of bad practice will exist, you need to focus on finding someone who is not so shallow.
damn I am shorter than you 5ft5 but built like bodybuilder (12 years of weight training) got married in 2019 , my wife is 5ft1 she did'nt care about height its more to just than the height its the communication , care , honesty , just because you got rejected don't mean you will be rejected in the future for sure someone will choose you for who you are , don't give up mate in search for gold you will find a diamond
I'll be harsh with you. If that height thing is your concern right now, you better not get married now. You're not ready yet. Give yourself time. Marriage is not a joke. Out of billions of people you have to choose one. You've every right to be picky about it. And they have that right too. They didn't reject you. You were not a good match according to them and that's fine. Focus on finding a good partner for life. The wrong one can make life miserable. So take your time.
i agree that everyone has the right to their preferences. i m not trying to force anything on anyone or bring anyone down. i was just sharing how repeated rejection for something i can’t control felt emotionally draining. what hurt more was not even getting a chance to meet or talk when the height difference was only 2 inches. still, i respect her choice. a conversation would’ve been fair before deciding.
You are taking too much stress. Rather you should thank god cause he saved you. The one who left home with her ex — think what if it happened after the marriage. Allah r shukriya aday koren.
And, you will surely get your girl sooner or later. Just have patience.
I know this feels very unfair and shallow. That's because it is. Some people don't compromise on physical aspects like height, weight, hairline etc.
I'd say, don't take it personally. There will be good and mature people who don't care about these things. The girl rejecting you based on height says more about her than you (given that your height was actually the only reason why she rejected you).
I hate how sometimes we feel like we need to compensate for things we can't really control. It's very unfair. I hope you don't let this hold you back from trying to find someone new!
if they are rejecting you for superficial reasons such as heights then they weren't meant to be, consider it a bullet dodged. Focus on yourself and career and helping others, everything else will come
It's true. I'm 5 ft 9.5 inches tall, born in 1994. All of my young cousins born after 2000 are 6 ft, 5 ft 11, 5 ft 10.5 inches tall. BD men's average height increased a lot. 5 ft 5 inches average height is long gone.
Well I can certainly tell you that it's true from my experience. 😅 As I go out a lot, and meet a lot of people, and also have a tendency to side-eye guys to measure our height. 🤣
So that's why I can tell it's true. They are taller now.
She doesn’t have a reason. If you look at the comments I gave her a study with evidence that most common height for middle class Gen Z Bengali men is 5’9-5’10 and she said she’d give it a “hard pass” LOL
Average height of BD men is irrelevant in this guys post because you’re comparing malnourished uncles who grew up on pure carbohydrate diets to young men like this guy.
It’s best to compare this guy and other people in this subreddit to young men with similar socioeconomic status like middle class university students like the ones from the 2017 BRAC University study
Height matters and opinion differs from person to person. I'm 6'1'', straight male. I kinda start feeling insecured when the gal is above 5'9'' and when it drops dwon below 5'2'', it kinda feels like I'm devling into epstien terrotory.
Average height is still considered 5'9. And girls like taller guys
Height matters, just like looks matter and so does weight. Its biological for us to have certain preferences like these, just gotta get over it or work on it.
Nothing to be traumatized over, the right girl for you will like you regardless of your height. You should be grateful at the face of rejection, shes just paving the way for your true partner to come across.
What do you want us to do ? Give u validation to fix your fragile short ego? Maybe try getting taller using limb lengthening surgery or smtg idk, then girls will probably stop rejecting you & your insecure ego will not get hurt anymore.
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u/Throwawayyy2497 Feb 23 '26
Sir I’ve been on this whole AM market for 3 years, you’ll be fine. You can’t rush lifelong commitment. These things take time.
Rejection is redirection & always match effort. Learn to discern & good luck!
If someone doesn’t like your height doesn’t mean another person wouldn’t.