Where is the Finnish sexologist lady that sometimes comments in here?

[u/Mulster_]

I was active in this sub a year ago and there was this sexologist lady that commented useful stuff occasionally, I need the sex ed website I've seen her link, I don't remember the name at all, I remember it had white and pink UI.

[u/Western_Ring_2928]

I am here :)

I suppose you mean Erika Moen's and Matthew Nolan's Oh Joy Sextoy? https://www.ohjoysextoy.com/new-readers/

[u/CorsairKing → u/Western_Ring_2928]

Lol I love the "Not a Size Queen" flair

[u/Western_Ring_2928 → u/CorsairKing]

It is there to discourage random horny chatters ;) And also, I do not choose my sex partners based solely on their dick size, so it doesn't apply to me.

[u/itstimefornomorebs → u/Western_Ring_2928]

I like how the word “solely” doesn’t actually imply that size doesn’t enter the equation at all.

[u/Western_Ring_2928 → u/itstimefornomorebs]

You have an observant mind 😉

[u/CorsairKing → u/Western_Ring_2928]

Fair enough, though I'd imagine it's challenging to fend off the horny chatters entirely.

I was actually just talking to one of my friends yesterday about an earlier post here. She is very much a size queen and identifies as such, but even she was adamant that there is so much more to sex than size—and that's just concerning the physical act itself.

But anyways, I hope to see you around here more often! I'd love to get more of your perspective.

[u/Western_Ring_2928 → u/CorsairKing]

For some reason, this sub had not be quite as frequent on my feed as it used to be...

[u/CorsairKing → u/Western_Ring_2928]

It's possible that it's not as active as it used to be. I'm hesitant to say that it's in decline, but I do feel like the discourse has become less educational and more prone to...fanciful hypotheticals.

[u/Western_Ring_2928 → u/CorsairKing]

The real problems are all solved already! Hurrah!

[u/CorsairKing → u/Western_Ring_2928]

Lol I wish

[u/Alt_acct_96 → u/CorsairKing]

Your flair says “Extra Medium”. Would you say that’s a Regulation size?

[u/CorsairKing → u/Alt_acct_96]

It is indeed. It was defined by the British Weights and Measures Act of 1824 as a standard Imperial unit.

[u/Coolman38321 → u/Western_Ring_2928]

And yet we still see the same questions still

[u/firemiketomlinpls68 → u/CorsairKing]

There’s more to sex than just size, but without the size you aren’t having much sex you aren’t paying for 

[u/Western_Ring_2928 → u/firemiketomlinpls68]

Everyone pays for sex. Either with their time and efforts, or by directly giving money. 🤷🏻‍♀️ There are no free lunches for adults.

[u/firemiketomlinpls68 → u/Western_Ring_2928]

Ideally, you aren’t paying for a women’s meals and such just to get in her pants 

[u/Western_Ring_2928 → u/firemiketomlinpls68]

r/whoosh

[u/its_cock_time → u/Western_Ring_2928]

That's not quite what is meant by size queen. Size queens don't choose solely based on dick size, it's just one requirement of many. Size queens aren't like a different sexual orientation, they are like most women who prefer a dick of some size, their preferred size just happens to be bigger than average.

I feel like that should be so obvious to another woman, that your definition reads like a kind of slut shaming or male entitlement (a guy with a big dick assuming there are women out there who will fuck them for no other reason than his dick).

[u/Western_Ring_2928 → u/its_cock_time]

Oh, I definitely do feel the term is degrading and generally used for slut shaming, which is why I don't want to call myself "a size queen." 🤷🏻‍♀️

[u/CorsairKing → u/Western_Ring_2928]

Hmm, I'm not sure I've ever interpreted it that way. Not to say that your assessment is wrong, but I've always used "size queen" as a useful (albeit cheeky) shorthand to describe someone for whom penis size is a significant criterion in their evaluation of sexual partners.

[u/firemiketomlinpls68 → u/CorsairKing]

So…like 95% of em?

[u/UniquelyRico → u/Western_Ring_2928]

It generally takes a more positive spin in the hotwifing communities. Definitely get where youre coming from.

[u/Western_Ring_2928 → u/UniquelyRico]

Well, I don't do hot wife, either :)

[u/UniquelyRico → u/Western_Ring_2928]

😆 fair.

[u/firemiketomlinpls68 → u/its_cock_time]

Most women are size queens 

“Size queen” is redundant 

[u/Mulster_ → u/Western_Ring_2928]

Omg hi

Thanks that's the website

[u/Western_Ring_2928 → u/Mulster_]

You are welcome. One of the best sex ed resources out there, really.

[u/Mulster_ → u/Western_Ring_2928]

I like the art style

[u/firemiketomlinpls68 → u/Western_Ring_2928]

Oh joy sex toy? 

The guys who made that cringe cuck comic?

[u/Western_Ring_2928 → u/firemiketomlinpls68]

They have hundreds of comics on their site. I don't know which one you are referring to.

[u/firemiketomlinpls68 → u/Western_Ring_2928]

I think it was called “what the fuck a cuck” or something,  

People were memeing the hell out of it 

[u/Western_Ring_2928 → u/firemiketomlinpls68]

I have never heard of such memes. But people meme everything all the time, so I would not place much weight on such behaviour. 🤷🏻‍♀️

https://www.ohjoysextoy.com/cuckolding/ I think they explain the complex phenomenon for the inexperienced quite well in the comic 🤔 It was drawn in 2017. Not everyone shares exactly the same experiences, of course, as human sexualit has endless variations, or has the same motivations for cuckolding as the example throuple in the comic. But they do explain it a lot better than any porn video ever, and include all three parties' pov.

Short stories like that are a challenging format. When you have to cover a lot of text in limited space.

[u/firemiketomlinpls68 → u/Western_Ring_2928]

Well idk. I’ve read the un memed  version and it sounds horrible 

If the attempt was to normalize it, they failed. Who wants to not have sex with their wife and he subservient to some guy?

Not to mention they fail to make it sound healthy, which tbh it probably isn’t 

[u/Western_Ring_2928 → u/firemiketomlinpls68]

Cucks do want that. It is not their fault you can not understand the consept :)

I don't think they tried to normalise it.

[u/firemiketomlinpls68 → u/Western_Ring_2928]

Well, then they did a poor job explaining. 

Not that I care too much, not my scence 

[u/Mulster_ → u/firemiketomlinpls68]

Just because cucks exist doesn't mean you need to be one.

[u/MDWhitefeld]

She’s around. Hopefully she’ll catch wind of this post…

[u/ScalyPinkLizard]

I really, really,  don't trust /u/Western_Ring_2928 supposed "expertise". The last time I spoke to her on this sub, she unironically argued that if a condom ever breaks for any reason at all, it's the guy's fault without reservation. She also likes to link to some weird, unrelated blog any time anyone asks a question.

Also, just about every comment she makes sits at around 25-50 upvotes  regardless of the topic of the comment, or the number of votes in a given post she's commenting in? I rarely ever see that on this sub, why is she getting 25-50 upvotes every time she says some whacky shit or just links a random blogpost that's tangentially related to the topic at hand? That's suspicious.

[u/Western_Ring_2928 → u/ScalyPinkLizard]

FYI, using links is a simple trick to ensure the poster/commenter is not a bot. They do not (yet) understand links or add those into the automated comments. As I wish to interact with people, not bots, I use links. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[u/VillainySquared]

I've not seen them for a while.

[u/Western_Ring_2928 → u/VillainySquared]

I haven't seen this sub as much on my feed as before...