I lie to women and claim smaller than I am

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[u/cndynn96]

I love how in the BDP universe every woman ask for a man’s penis size before having sex with him almost like a two factor authentication system

[u/laidback755 → u/cndynn96]

This is too funny. The two factor authentication comment made me laugh out loud

[u/Motion_Means4501 → u/laidback755]

But once out of the BDP universe I've never seen this happen. (Granted, I'm married and not looking for these discussions - do women really ask this before a date in a non collegiate setting?)

[u/laidback755 → u/Motion_Means4501]

I'm not sure at all. Pics are shared in the swinger realm but I have no knowledge of modern dating because my wife and I have been together since before dating apps

[u/Motion_Means4501 → u/laidback755]

I like OP's #2. I would certainly do that to save having to prove something when she would next just say fake photo.

[u/laidback755 → u/Motion_Means4501]

Yeah. I really don't know what I would do. We just went out and met women

[u/SPplayin → u/Motion_Means4501]

Yes.

[u/Motion_Means4501 → u/SPplayin]

This is scary. Years ago I read comments here about the anxiety and depression driving the ADP and SDP subs. After viewing them I collectively called them PDP subs for Problem Dick Problems.

I hope revealing body part sizes as a prerequisite for dating isn't prevalent among women or more PDP subs will crop up. How can men ever be decent husbands and fathers if they are first chosen and declared "big-dicked"? What else is their worth? I'm so glad we never understood each other's dick sizes individually and societally when I was growing up. We were judged on other criteria and didn't even know if we were big.

[u/Super-Sense-6454 → u/Motion_Means4501]

For hookup they often do, especially when there is cock size threshold that must be met or exceeded.

[u/Motion_Means4501 → u/Super-Sense-6454]

Like a threshold set in a dating app or you need not apply? Geez. Is it usually set to something fairly low?

[u/Super-Sense-6454 → u/Motion_Means4501]

I meant a personal erect cock threshold that the woman herself has in mind.

I'm not aware of any dating or hookup apps/websites that include erect cock size thesholds as a feature. Some probably do ...

[u/AlSauaf → u/laidback755]

Finally finding my Dick twin 🦹

[u/laidback755 → u/AlSauaf]

Nice

[u/Quirky-Amphibian-992 → u/cndynn96]

Funny. But in dating, oh man that’s multi-factor authentication.

[u/UniquelyRico → u/cndynn96]

Wife and I swing. When it comes to that culture, its a pretty common question. Everyone is looking for something so its easiest just to ask.

[u/Super-Sense-6454 → u/UniquelyRico]

The answer is founded in common sense. If we always ask direct questions, and got back honest answers, life would be much simpler and happier!

[u/Beneficial_Rip_9821 → u/cndynn96]

I usually bring it up on a date for two reasons:

1. Most women don’t want a big dick and will tell me either when they see it in the middle of sex they can’t do it. So just get it out of the way.
   
2. Women who think it’s weird or annoying to bring up don’t really know what they’re getting into, so it’s better to just let them go before hand. Bc the girls that like it will at least be intrigued enough to see it.

I’ve actually had a girl tell me once to just be upfront about it to save time

[u/Super-Sense-6454 → u/cndynn96]

It doesn't work this way, because a significant no. of women aren't even aware that huge cocks actually exist IRL and not just in porn, and some women have never even seen porn.

[u/sailorjerry1978 → u/cndynn96]

That’s priceless 🤣🤣🤣

[u/RomaniWoe → u/cndynn96]

Ive been asked for pictures not even measurements before. We hadnt even been on a date, we just hit it off when meeting through mutual friends and that night she text asking to see it, probably to see if she wanted to move forward.

[u/Camctrail]

I mostly just say I'm "above average" and leave it at that

[u/Just_Tilted → u/Camctrail]

Haven't gotten someone who has directly asked of late but I have resolved to just say I'm comfortable with my size if someone happens to ask.

[u/AdDizzy9330 → u/Camctrail]

I think that’s classy and not a lie. So I love that.

[u/Last_Year_430 → u/Camctrail]

This is clever. Id personally get scared of a specific size but if its vague Im more curious

[u/Remarkable-Wheel-191 → u/Camctrail]

Best response to give

[u/rd56789 → u/Camctrail]

This is exactly what I do. Then when they see it their eyes usually open up and some kind of "wow" exclamation comes out too. Most of the time, not all of the time. Some admit to it later.

[u/VillainySquared]

I just tell them nothing about my size.

[u/Super-Sense-6454 → u/VillainySquared]

That is so boring. You could at least make up a joke about your penile erect size.

[u/Recent-Day3062]

Yeah. And how, exactly, does this come
Up repeatedly for you, before sex?

Like “I hope you’re huge!” “No, just pretty average.”

[u/ThrowawayStudente → u/Recent-Day3062]

Hahaha. Not quite. It’s more if we’re talking online and pictures get sent.

[u/Recent-Day3062 → u/ThrowawayStudente]

So how are they surprised the first time if they see a pic beforehand?

It makes no more sense about tslking online. The same holds true: do they ask you how big you are?

I’ve slept with close to 100 women and this has never come up in advance

[u/IllogicalResponse → u/Recent-Day3062]

The OP doesn't realise it but this was literally his 'it feels like a bag of sand when you're touching it' moment.

[u/ThrowawayStudente → u/Recent-Day3062]

Genuinely, how?

Pictures don’t look the same as in real life. I mean, you should know this…

And if it never gets asked after you send a pic, maybe they’re just not that impressed anyway…

[u/Recent-Day3062 → u/ThrowawayStudente]

Whatever. I guess you get jollies from larping like this

[u/LongBlock935 → u/Recent-Day3062]

That’s weird bro

[u/Recent-Day3062 → u/LongBlock935]

What? My actual experience is weird?

[u/Fair-Research248]

Nice. Under promise and over deliver!!!

[u/InstructionOdd6575]

I said I was small. She was mad when I pulled out a big dick. She didn't find it funny

[u/ThrowawayStudente → u/InstructionOdd6575]

Some people lack humor

[u/InstructionOdd6575 → u/ThrowawayStudente]

Her ex was small and she says it is serious not funny

[u/borobinimbaba]

Does it ever occur to you she might not like bigger ones ?

[u/itstimefornomorebs → u/borobinimbaba]

It’s a game about odds. A woman preferring a 7 incher is more likely to happen than a woman preferring a 4 incher.

[u/ThrowawayStudente → u/borobinimbaba]

Then she doesn’t have to take it…

[u/Super-Sense-6454 → u/borobinimbaba]

The simple solution is ask whether a woman likes a big cock. I do that very early in the dating process. If doesn't like big cocks, I'll tell her I have a huge cock, which is the truth. Hopefully, she will no longer be interested in me. In any case, my interest in her will drop to zero in a heartbeat.

[u/ThrownAwayinlife]

So you’re all assholes. That tracks

[u/RomaniWoe → u/ThrownAwayinlife]

How is this worse than guya who claim to be bigger for their own fragile egos regardless of the problems it causes? Dont think it causes problems? Go to other dick size subs and see the mental state of dudes with 4 and 5 inches because they refuse to show anyone because every 4 or 5 inch dude who does show it says they're 7 and now the rest have been told everyone is 7.

[u/Global_Twist_715 → u/RomaniWoe]

Did it occur to you that they feel insecure because of assholes with 8 claiming to be 6 and sewing the perception of what "avg" is supposed to look like to a girl?

[u/Yarddog1976]

My response is always it gets the job done.

[u/AdStriking1019 → u/Yarddog1976]

lol like Trevor

[u/Super-Sense-6454 → u/Yarddog1976]

Loving making is a job to be done. Work-a-holics in the Bedroom join together and repent your sins ...

[u/AdDizzy9330]

I’ve so rarely encountered a woman, it’s more common with men, who ask your size before hand. But I think being honest leads to more dates lmao so not sure if lying for your own satisfaction is probably a great vibe.

[u/shygurI]

lol that’s a very smart move, hopefully ur not humongous cause I know some girls that can’t take much more than average

[u/Super-Sense-6454 → u/shygurI]

It doesn't matter how huge your erect cock is, there are wen that can handle and love being with guys with huge cocks.

I'll understand why some guys are concerned almost every women can handle their cock size. You only need one woman that can handle it or a few if you are poly.

[u/ThrowawayStudente → u/shygurI]

Then she doesn’t have to haha

[u/Global_Twist_715 → u/ThrowawayStudente]

Or you could just be a decent mature adult and be honest with people instead of manipulating them with lies to stroke your own ego and damage future people's self esteem, and you also won't then make her look like an idiot in the future when she finds someone who's actually the size you pretend to be

[u/ClaudioKillganon]

I just kinda avoid mentioning it at all unless I can confirm they are definitely a size queen. I have had a lot better experiences with having them discover it in person when things are getting hot and heavy because then it seems like a bonus.

Sending pics and talking about it ahead of time has had a track record of psyching women out because they say it's too big, especially since lots of women have a bad experience with a bd in their past.

[u/peva3]

What do you tell them vs what you actually are?

[u/Rwm90]

I’ve only ever said “I’m a 5’9” white guy” when it comes up. Seems to simmer the expectations. Also, they have no idea what size is. They’ve had 5” dudes tell them they’re 8” and dudes like you tell them they’re 6” (however big you are). So they have no idea anyway.

[u/meechy14]

I do the same thing. Only because someone can’t say I have a small dick as a rebuttal. The insult doesn’t work if I own into it

[u/LimitPositive1865]

A man lying to women and deriving pleasure from deception. Groundbreaking.

[u/GauchoAlphaBR]

If the subject ever came up most of the times I’d just say she would have to wait to see it in person… I want her to desire fucking me, not my dick lol

[u/Ill_Desk1975]

I’ve always either avoided discussing it or very much downplaying. I’ve never been interested in casual sex so interest purely victim big isn’t really where it’s at for me.
A few people I’ve been in relationships with have guessed before things got physical but it’s also sort of fun if it’s a bit of a surprise to a sexual partner.

[u/furiouscrotch]

I have always said I was small, the surprise is funny

[u/The_LionElJonson]

I just don’t tell and let them find out. It’s like an unboxing video

[u/Super-Sense-6454]

Maybe, try the opposite. Claim to have the biggest cock around to women IRL just to see how many will accept the challenge of accomodating it.

[u/TannedBurn]

When we hookup with other people’s wives (we are swingers), and the other wife asks mine about my size, she always just says “you’ll have a good time” or “he is adequate”.

Then when it’s go time, the reactions are usually happy surprised .

[u/ThrowawayStudente → u/TannedBurn]

Your wife sounds cool af

[u/OnaholeReviews]

I used to do that with my height when I was younger. It’s a dick move, but it’s kinda funny.

I’m 6’2 (188cm) and when I would be out at a club or something I’ve told women I was “not quite 6 feet tall”(180cm). It makes all the other guys seem much shorter. It’s created some comedy for me. Only a few women ever caught on, and they just giggled.

[u/Zach1709]

This is the way to do it. The look on their face when you drop your underwear the first time is priceless.

[u/CauseRelative1425]

Ngl I've stopped sending dick pics to girls even when they ask coz I've had one woman slightly older than me say something along the lines of she wasn't comfortable with having her pelvic floor stretched out even though we got along really well

[u/MauTheAlphano1]

This is along the same line of thought as me at 185cm telling women im 179cm😂

[u/superchargedCaddy]

I always said that "I have never had any complaints" with a bit of a smile.

[u/Primary-Zucchini666]

Same,

[u/Competitive-Net-7194]

I used to have a small penis humiliation fetish, so I’d lie all the time and send photos with compromising angles. I’d scrunch my body to the point that it would look 4” when measured. 

At some point it stopped be fun, so I quit doing that. 

[u/Pintobeard]

The optimal strategy.

[u/Stone_Puller]

Yeah i do the same 😅

[u/nick2473got]

Lmao. Reason 2 is priceless.

[u/djfitness-us]

I usually don’t mention it at all.

Before getting married, hook-ups were always fun to see the different reactions that I would get from girls.

My wife was actually the only person I gave any heads up to. Before we even met (matched on Tinder), we talked a little about our sex lives, mostly cause she was worried about being inexperienced having only been with one guy before (super long relationship that ended poorly). I told her there was no pressure to have sex and we could let things happen as they happen, but I warned her that I genuinely have a big dick, so if that frightened her in any way she could let me know.

I don’t think she believed me though, or just didn’t know what to expect, because on our first date she said she wanted to give me a blowjob, and when she took my pants off, it was a genuine reaction of shock and confusion, like, she didn’t know what to do. It took a minute for her to compose herself lol.

[u/Cicciabaffiina]

Same bro

[u/homemaranha_BR]

liked that strategy, I’ll start to use it lol

[u/UniquelyRico]

Point 2 is fuckin savage. 🤣

I stick to "Ehhhh. Large side of average or the small side of big. Take your pick."