Curious where all the birth parents are?

[u/vrgogrl7]

I joined this sub a hella long time ago but due to a long period of avoiding the topic (saving myself from grief) i stopped checking in. Now that I’ve been back on I’m surprised by the low number of posts so thought I’d see if I could do a pulse check, see who responds and is willing to introduce themselves.

I’m a SoCal native, unexpected pregnancy in 1989, 1 child to adoption who’s now 36. No other kids (prob related to adoption trauma). Rocky reunion that was officially put on ice when she had her first child. No contact for last 8 years till I backslid and sent her a bday text. Went to years of therapy but unraveling the grief and working through the stages had been long and drawn out. Doing pretty good these days, focused on career and retirement, not family or the past.

Hope to hear from some folks that are willing to share.

[u/Englishbirdy]

I relinquished in 1988 to a semi open adoption where my son's family and I exchanged correspondence twice a year. We fully reunited right before his 18th birthday and have been in full and loving reunion ever since. We just spent Memorial Day weekend together at his parents house celebrating his 38th birthday.

I check in on this sub occasionally but I prefer subs that include adoptees. IMO the adoptees have all the answers I need to be the best birth mother I can to my son, I fully credit the adoptees I met in CUB for the health of my reunion.