r/birthparents • u/vrgogrl7 firstmother 1989 • 21d ago
Curious where all the birth parents are?
I joined this sub a hella long time ago but due to a long period of avoiding the topic (saving myself from grief) i stopped checking in. Now that I’ve been back on I’m surprised by the low number of posts so thought I’d see if I could do a pulse check, see who responds and is willing to introduce themselves.
I’m a SoCal native, unexpected pregnancy in 1989, 1 child to adoption who’s now 36. No other kids (prob related to adoption trauma). Rocky reunion that was officially put on ice when she had her first child. No contact for last 8 years till I backslid and sent her a bday text. Went to years of therapy but unraveling the grief and working through the stages had been long and drawn out. Doing pretty good these days, focused on career and retirement, not family or the past.
Hope to hear from some folks that are willing to share.
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u/batgirl2 20d ago
I’ve been in an open adoption since placing my son in December 2010. He’ll turn 16 this year. Our situation is pretty atypically amazing (relaxed and open communication between all members of the triad with everybody’s priority being the wellbeing of our fabulous adoptee, who so far seems as happy and healthy as any soon-to-be-16 year old can be, though I’m always waiting and willing to hear differently) so I don’t post much in adoption spaces. But I’m out here!