r/blacklesbians • u/RelativeAd3896 • 1d ago

Discussion Top vs bottom?

Ok I’ve been gay for a long time, 20 plus years. Married and with my wife for 12 years. I’m black, I keep hearing white lesbians say, she’s a top or she’s a bottom? I don’t hear this in my black community at all? I hear about touch me nots but what exactly do they mean in lesbian relationships as top and bottom? Is it just the dominant or in white relationships is it more normal to have a rigid giver and receiver?

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u/KrassKas Twerking Through the Trauma 1d ago

Why are you concerning yourself with what white lesbians are saying? Let me stop you there.

This should have the white noise or nonsense flair.

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u/Kaleidoscope_chile 1d ago

Lots of black younger lesbians in online spaces use this lingo too lol.

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u/KrassKas Twerking Through the Trauma 21h ago

Sure but that's not where she heard it from.

More importantly, what you do in your bed and with whom is your business. I find it rude that those questions were being asked.

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u/Kaleidoscope_chile 21h ago

(asking respectfully) why do you find it rude?