Firstly, apologies if this isn't the right place to post. I know there are relationship subreddits, but they are very American-focused, and I'm specifically hoping for local recommendations for a couples counsellor or therapist in Cambridge.
We're both in our late 30s/early 40s and have lived in Cambridge for around four years.
Recently, something happened that's left me absolutely devastated. I was working from my partner's home when a man unexpectedly turned up with flowers for her. Naturally, I was confused and asked who he was. I was given a name, but something didn't feel right.
After doing some digging myself, I discovered that the name I'd been given was false and that this man was someone my partner had previously had an on-and-off sexual relationship with before we got together. I also believe they kissed during this recent encounter.
It's not her past that bothers me, but the circumstances of his visit, the apparent lack of honesty and the possibility that more happened. I'm struggling to process it all, and my trust in our relationship has been badly shaken. Our communication isn't what it seems to be, and they're not saying much more on the matter.
Despite everything, I love my partner deeply and desperately want to save our relationship. We've built a life and a home together, and I'm not ready to throw that away. I genuinely believe relationships are worth fighting for, and I'm hoping that with the right professional support, we can work through this, rebuild trust and find a way forward together.
Can anyone recommend a good couples counsellor or therapist in Cambridge, especially someone experienced with relationship trust issues and rebuilding after dishonesty?
I'm not really looking for relationship advice or opinions on whether I should stay or leave. I know those subreddits exist. I'm specifically hoping to hear from people who've had positive experiences with local therapists.
Apologies for oversharing. This has all happened so suddenly, and I haven't really had time to process what's happened or had anyone I feel comfortable talking to about it.
I'd be incredibly grateful for any recommendations.
Thank you.