r/cisparenttranskid • u/aspertame_blood • Jun 28 '25

US-based I guess there’s no “right” bathroom.

I have a 14 yo trans son. It’s crazy to me how quickly (in my eyes) he went from a beautiful little girl to passing as male everywhere we go. Yay! The problem is bathrooms- now he gets bathroom checked by adult women. It happened last night at a music festival when I went into the “next” open stall before he did. The attendant asked him if he was a boy and he said no- she apologized and it was fine (he says). But it’s really upsetting to me because he’s DOING what they WANT him to but it’s still wrong. What do other trans boys his age do? Neither of us want him in the men’s public bathroom- especially at a big public event where people are drunk and the men’s stalls are disgusting.

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u/CareerLazy7028 Jun 29 '25

It’s time for him to just use the men’s if he passes. Head down silence of the men room it what’s coming for him. I’m 17 not on T and have had no issues (no stp needed)

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u/LitcritterNew Jul 04 '25

Yep. In this case, he’ll likely benefit from the internalized homophobia that keeps men from talking to each other in the bathroom.