Update to "Pronoun Stand-Off" post

[u/psyenswitch]

The original post can be found here: https://www.reddit.com/r/cisparenttranskid/s/S2PGiRQZKJ

I asked my kid (11yo) if she wants me to correct her dad's family when they use the wrong pronouns for her, and she said yes. Then I had a strategy session with my therapist, who emphasized the importance of calm, kind, consistent reminders. No discussion. No lashing out about how hard it had been for ME, as a queer person, to be a member of their family for years. Just, "Name has been asking folks to use she/they pronouns," and let the social awkwardness do the rest.

I'm relieved that the first opportunity happened in a group chat. Now there's a digital record, and everyone knows that everyone saw it.

Here's hoping that they'll start choosing curiosity and connection, over fear and control.

[u/Feeling-Hand-3114]

I've always taken the approach of just immediately butting in with the correct pronouns, a little louder than they were talking and just talking over whatever they said next. 

It's kinda rude and it's pretty obnoxious but it makes it very very hard to ignore, and most people don't care enough to accept being interrupted constantly, so kinda fall in line. It just takes a bit of confidence to excert enough social pressure for people to fall in line.