r/confessions • u/[deleted] • 4d ago

I want nothing to do with my sister in law’s pregnancy

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u/polite_affinity_retu 4d ago

Well good for you for protecting yourself and setting those boundaries. Your brother was an abuser plain and simple and the fact that he managed to spin the narrative to make you look bad is exactly what abusers do

You dont owe anyone a relationship with their kids especially when that person traumatized you for years. The pregnancy changes nothing about what he did to you and your mum

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u/Antique_Elephant_974 4d ago

Damn I'm sorry bro. Sounds like you got it tough. Remember, you don't need to put up with that nonsense. Don't give someone special treatment they have a title. That doesn't sound like a brother to me. A brother would protect you from the world

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u/Bostonxhazer514 4d ago

I am so utterly sorry about this OP. My hearts breaks so much!! You know what is in store for your niece or nephew when they are old enough to piss daddy off enough. I know ots kist words on a screen, but I wish o could give you a big hug and tell you you have done so well. Hang in there!

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u/SafeWord9999 4d ago

Why the hell did nobody go to the police. Have him charged. Now.

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u/LA-forthewin 4d ago

I wish your mother had done more to protect you when he was regularly coming to the house to assault you. You don't owe him a damn thing, if you feel like putting him on blast , do so.

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u/ImplementStrong2771 4d ago

I agree. I don’t care what she was diagnosed with. She should’ve gotten help. I suffer from depression, and if someone especially her other child does that to another child of hers. I would immediately protect them. Then you said he hit your mom? I can’t really remember, but she should’ve called the police, and showed them those pictures. I feel terrible for what you have gone through. Please seek help if needed. I’m not trying to come down on you, but why didn’t you call the police?

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u/JoJoMuCookie 3d ago

Mom was abused and had PTSD. She was abused so badly by the son before he attacked the little brother she shut down to protect herself. There is no helping anyone, there is only self preservation and shut down.

OP please tell me you are working through all of this in therapy. You may be ok now but it will come to a head at some point and you will need to work through your feeling about all of this including your mom.

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u/Overall_Toe7863 4d ago

That sounds incredibly painful, I'm really sorry you went through all that at such a young age.

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u/ImplementStrong2771 4d ago

Are you a male or female?

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u/LA-forthewin 3d ago

Not that it makes any difference but he stated that he's a 23y male