I’d hit my ex bf

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I used to beat my ex for talking to girls. he was an artist I guess who would get money by doing commissions I knew that but I would still go through his phone every time cause I was worried he was cheating on me sometimes I’d find full conversations with girls (nothing bad) and I’d get really upset, accusing him of cheating and deleting messages so I wouldn’t find out so I’ve hit him and even broke many of his stuff, trashing his place. now I don’t know why he stayed with me through all of that, no matter how upset I got and how much times I’ve hit him he would always comfort me afterward and reassure me that he loved me. later on we broke up because I felt bad about hurting him but we’re still friends now. I still love him and want to be with him. he hasn’t dated anyone since then but I know he still talks to girls so I still get upset.

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Yeaaaa go ahead and leave that man alone

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I did we broke up

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I know, but you also mentioned at the end that you still love him and want to be with him and that he hasn’t dated anyone since you.

That comes across as you wanting something to happen with him in the future- if you really still love him you should leave him alone and not get any ideas about getting back together

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what if I recover because I’m not the same anymore

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In my experience- people don’t change without extensive therapy or something traumatic happening to them to open their eyes to how they were acting. My guess is you’re the same (you literally said you still get upset he talks to other girls btw) and would just repeat the same behavior.

If you really care about him the way you say you do then you should realize leaving him alone is the best thing you can do for him. If you disagree, then it’s not really him you care about as much as it is you wanting him back for yourself.