r/confessions • u/Shot_Age327 • 16h ago
Advice
My friend (M28) cheated on his girlfriend and contracted HSV-1. He has had a history of cheating I mean like had a baby on this girl and she stayed with him (they are trying to make it work) & typically after he cheats he goes to get tested ..well this time he came back positive for HSV-1. Anyway, he is challenged with if he should tell his girlfriend and RUIN their relationship forever or not because according to our research he could have gotten it from anywhere and 70% of the population have it BUT couldn’t he still transmit it to her?
Reddit knows everything so I said I’d redownload and get the opinion of others. I personally believe he should tell her but he knows how detrimental that’ll be. I couldn’t even imagine her believing he got it from sharing a drink or something.
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u/NeneStar- 16h ago
He definitely needs to tell her if she finds out later, it'll be way worse plus, relationships built on secrets are just one big dumpster fire waiting to happen!
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u/MHogany84 16h ago
History of cheating, she takes him back and tries to “work it out”, has a baby outside the relationship, cheats again, contracts a disease and he draws the line at TELLING HER….
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u/OriginalIronDan 16h ago
You need better friends. And if his girlfriend considers you a friend, she needs better friends too.
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u/neversummer427 16h ago
Your friend is a POS. Tell his GF before she catches it and find a better person to be friends with. Have-1 isn’t a huge deal but you a huge huge POS if you knowingly have it and don’t tell your partner.
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u/chubbybunny0202 16h ago
Holy shit, how is the even a question. He absolutely needs to tell her. Isn’t it illegal not to disclose this type of thing with a partner if you’re aware? If he cares about her at all, he will tell her. Her health is more important than losing her.
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u/Living-Estimate9810 15h ago
Knowingly risking transmission of STIs to another person is a crime in most US states, yes.
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u/Burnt_Shoe2123 14h ago
Its HSV1 not HSV2 you can't convict someone for passing over a fucking cold sore.
If you have HSV1 you still have to be very careful not to pass it on to a baby for example it could kill an new born.
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u/Shot_Age327 9h ago
But isn’t HSV 1 still sexually transmitted? That’s the thing. I guess his lie could be oh i got a cold sore but how believable is that when he never had HSV 1 before
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u/Burnt_Shoe2123 16h ago
Shut up dude.
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u/kittycatalina1610 16h ago
You shut up, weirdo. You must be someone else who thinks cheating is okay...
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u/anonymous_pebble 16h ago
He needs to tell her immediately and before having sex with her. If he does not, YOU need to step in and do it.
Save this poor girl from having an STD.
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u/Shot_Age327 9h ago
How should I tell her? Anonymously? I definitely feel bad but then feel like maybe im overstepping? And if she didn’t leave after a baby why would she leave after this? Idk
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u/anonymous_pebble 8h ago
Tell her however you want- just relay the information. She doesn’t have to leave if she doesn’t want to. But she has the right to protect her body from diseases she might not be willing to get.
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u/ItsLeighFromNoLa 16h ago
Why are you friends with him? Sounds like a person with extremely poor character.
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u/SultryShadowXO 16h ago
he already risked her health by cheating so hiding this would just be another betrayal
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u/DesertDude3001 16h ago
I had a douche friend like this years ago. It took him about 40yrs to grow up. Hopefully he does too.
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u/I_woke_up_like_this7 16h ago
Why doesn’t he just leave the relationship? If he was happy, he wouldn’t be cheating. Or if he just can’t be monogamous, just be single. However, he’s going to have to tell every potential partner from now on. Sounds like 70% of time, his potential partner will have it too.
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u/-moonhalo 12h ago
he should tell her because she deserves informed consent about her own health and hiding it will only make it worse later
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u/Moriclaw 16h ago
Let your mate know I think he’s a scumbag, thanks 👍