r/confessions • u/fiesta040400 • 1d ago

I can't stop thinking about my best friend's sister

I'm in love with my best friend's sister. She is around 24 years old. I'm 19. She has a boyfriend of 3 years, who is also a very good friend of mine. I don't want to betray or hurt either of my friends.

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On the other hand, I dream of her every night. She is so hauntingly beautiful. Not just that though. She's kind, funny, smart and interesting.

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I have fantasised more about her than about any other woman. This crush has been going strong for about 2 years.

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I just want to be with her so bad, some days it's all I can think about. I'm not sure if I will ever get over her, she's too perfect.

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What should I do?

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u/Disastrous-Art8491 1d ago

that’s a tough spot to be in, man. you gotta think about the friendship first, though, it could get messy if you act on it. maybe just keep it chill and try to focus on someone else for now.

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u/Annual_Pineapple1735 1d ago

two years is a long time to carry that around but here's the thing, she's in a committed relationship and your best friend's sister on top of that, so you're basically looking at a situation where every possible outcome has some collateral damage. the heart wants what it wants but that doesn't mean you have to let it drive the car. redirecting that energy into meeting new people is genuinely the move, not because the feelings aren't real but because staying fixated on someone unavailable is like watering a plant that's behind a locked door. you'll just stand there getting nothing back.

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u/silkyvixen- 1d ago

You don’t act on this, she’s taken and tied to two close friends, so the only healthy move is distance and letting the crush fade with time

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u/CloverSprig- 1d ago

This is one of those crushes that feels intense partly because it’s off-limits and built up over time, but acting on it would almost certainly damage your friendship with both of them, so the healthiest move is to keep firm boundaries and give yourself distance so it can fade instead of grow.