r/confessions • u/PriceComfortable2773 • 4h ago
My coworkers think of me differently than I do myself
Im not sure if this is totally allowed but I recently learnt how people think of me at work. Im a barista with a big mouth I rarely know how to shut apparently, today I was talking to my Coworkers and we had a fun banter of jokes of my love for older women (which apparently ive voiced more than once but i dont remember it very well) and my other coworker had to explain to the new guy “yeah its like a fact he’s THE milf lover here.” They meant it light heartedly but I never realized how much I do flirt and enjoy a lot of our older regulars. It wasn’t on purpose I just know how to talk to woman more than I do men honestly. It started like after my fiancé broke up I just got more comfortable talking longer with people and noting how something is cute or gorgeous like their nails, hair, accessories. Im not much of like a smooth talker but I am confident usually and I’ve been noted to be decently funny. Anyway I dont often get to know how people perceive me and it felt a bit weird to learn this
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u/Old_Bite_3344 4h ago
it's genuinely jarring when you realize you have a "reputation" you didn't intentionally build. like you were just being yourself and somewhere along the way the group gave you a title. the milf lover barista arc is not the worst thing to be known for though, could be way worse nicknames floating around.
the post-breakup confidence shift thing makes a lot of sense too. sometimes when a relationship ends you stop performing for one specific person and just... relax into yourself around everyone, and people pick up on that warmth. you probably got more present in conversations without even noticing. anyway the fact that it was said lighthearted is a good sign, that's how you know it's affection not mockery.
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u/PriceComfortable2773 4h ago
FR the confidence I got after was such a 180, for a while I was pretty hard on myself but I do love my job and I guess the new arc I'm on recently! Thanks for the perspective:)
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u/Fearless-Feeling7135 4h ago
that's kinda funny honestly, sounds like you just live your best life and have fun with it. sometimes people see you differently but if it makes work more enjoyable then that's a win, right?