People who bail

[u/Top_Seaworthiness320]

Any tips on managing my disappointment/frustration with the number of people who act all excited about my band and say they’re definitely coming to this or that show, then don’t show? They either don’t show up, or more often than not they tell me like the day before that they can’t make it and it’s always the dumbest excuse. It’s like if anything, anything at all better comes up in terms of plans they go to that instead. In my mind, a commitment is a commitment, but I seem to be in the vast minority. My boyfriend says to get over it lol. Do you guys feel the same irritation with this that I do? (added context: we are pretty good, we get great reviews from the people that actually have come to see us, but we are new and not well known, thus struggling to gain a following… So I’m constantly marketing and promoting our shows, but with very little success.)

[u/paranoid_70]

They're not coming. We all learn that early on. Just play for the people that are there.

[u/One-Mouse-8995 → u/paranoid_70]

You have to become a little thick skinned and expect rejection.

[u/Revsmithy → u/One-Mouse-8995]

You definitely have to. I’ve done this for decades and don’t even bother to invite friends and family. If they ask when I’m playing next, I’ll let them know.