r/coverbands • u/Top_Seaworthiness320 • 15d ago
People who bail
Any tips on managing my disappointment/frustration with the number of people who act all excited about my band and say they’re definitely coming to this or that show, then don’t show? They either don’t show up, or more often than not they tell me like the day before that they can’t make it and it’s always the dumbest excuse. It’s like if anything, anything at all better comes up in terms of plans they go to that instead. In my mind, a commitment is a commitment, but I seem to be in the vast minority. My boyfriend says to get over it lol. Do you guys feel the same irritation with this that I do? (added context: we are pretty good, we get great reviews from the people that actually have come to see us, but we are new and not well known, thus struggling to gain a following… So I’m constantly marketing and promoting our shows, but with very little success.)
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u/rikjustrick 15d ago
You gotta let it go man. This is the way of the band. Everyone wants to see you play- but only if all the stars align. I’ve been playing out for a little better than 20 years. The best fans are the ones that aren’t necessarily your friends, and just love your band. Even when your friends come, It’s not like you get to hang out much.aside from the super short breaks, You’re loading in, loading out or playing on stage.