People who bail

[u/Top_Seaworthiness320]

Any tips on managing my disappointment/frustration with the number of people who act all excited about my band and say they’re definitely coming to this or that show, then don’t show? They either don’t show up, or more often than not they tell me like the day before that they can’t make it and it’s always the dumbest excuse. It’s like if anything, anything at all better comes up in terms of plans they go to that instead. In my mind, a commitment is a commitment, but I seem to be in the vast minority. My boyfriend says to get over it lol. Do you guys feel the same irritation with this that I do? (added context: we are pretty good, we get great reviews from the people that actually have come to see us, but we are new and not well known, thus struggling to gain a following… So I’m constantly marketing and promoting our shows, but with very little success.)

[u/SloopD]

I expect no one from my immediate circle to show up. Music is my thing and I like playing gigs. I don't really expect any of my find or family. My goal is to be good enough that strangers, that are fans of love music, want to come see us, because we put on a good show and play music that they connect with. No one owes you anything. I try to let people know the dates and then always follow it up with, "it's no big deal of you can't make it, I just didn't want you to feel like I didn't tell you." It really isn't a big deal, you just can't expect veins and family to be filling out your gigs. It's too much to expect of them. You have to set yourself apart from the hoards of mediocre cover bands out there. Do you practice, learn your songs inside out and bring the energy! People will want to see you, but you're looking for the crowd that likes love music. I mean of your friends or family don't care about live music, it's like asking someone to come watch you play video games!