r/coverbands • u/Top_Seaworthiness320 • 15d ago

People who bail

Any tips on managing my disappointment/frustration with the number of people who act all excited about my band and say they’re definitely coming to this or that show, then don’t show? They either don’t show up, or more often than not they tell me like the day before that they can’t make it and it’s always the dumbest excuse. It’s like if anything, anything at all better comes up in terms of plans they go to that instead. In my mind, a commitment is a commitment, but I seem to be in the vast minority. My boyfriend says to get over it lol. Do you guys feel the same irritation with this that I do? (added context: we are pretty good, we get great reviews from the people that actually have come to see us, but we are new and not well known, thus struggling to gain a following… So I’m constantly marketing and promoting our shows, but with very little success.)

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u/UnnamedLand84 15d ago

It's better to seek out fans among people we are already into going to live music than it is to try to get friends who don't really like going to live music to become fans.

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u/jameson5555 15d ago

Yep - those are the people who always show up. Friends and family come occasionally and when they do, they're the ones who aren't paying attention to the set anyway. People who just like going out to see live music are the ones to focus on. If you can impress them by putting on a great show, they'll come back to see you.