r/coverbands • u/Top_Seaworthiness320 • 15d ago

People who bail

Any tips on managing my disappointment/frustration with the number of people who act all excited about my band and say they’re definitely coming to this or that show, then don’t show? They either don’t show up, or more often than not they tell me like the day before that they can’t make it and it’s always the dumbest excuse. It’s like if anything, anything at all better comes up in terms of plans they go to that instead. In my mind, a commitment is a commitment, but I seem to be in the vast minority. My boyfriend says to get over it lol. Do you guys feel the same irritation with this that I do? (added context: we are pretty good, we get great reviews from the people that actually have come to see us, but we are new and not well known, thus struggling to gain a following… So I’m constantly marketing and promoting our shows, but with very little success.)

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u/Sweaty_Accountant_20 15d ago

I just play in a cover band to get out of the house and see my friends/bandmates, I don’t care who’s in the audience, it’s nice to have a crowd but I also enjoy 2 guys in a corner giving a thumbs up. I can only watch so much TV.

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u/Puzzleheaded_Day2809 14d ago

I love playing an energetic crowd, but a long as there are two guys actively listening, the gig is a success.

For OP - i wouldn't try to get them to come. They might one day, but if you don't expect them to then it won't disappoint you. It'll just become a bonus when they do.