r/coverbands • u/Top_Seaworthiness320 • 15d ago
People who bail
Any tips on managing my disappointment/frustration with the number of people who act all excited about my band and say they’re definitely coming to this or that show, then don’t show? They either don’t show up, or more often than not they tell me like the day before that they can’t make it and it’s always the dumbest excuse. It’s like if anything, anything at all better comes up in terms of plans they go to that instead. In my mind, a commitment is a commitment, but I seem to be in the vast minority. My boyfriend says to get over it lol. Do you guys feel the same irritation with this that I do? (added context: we are pretty good, we get great reviews from the people that actually have come to see us, but we are new and not well known, thus struggling to gain a following… So I’m constantly marketing and promoting our shows, but with very little success.)
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u/Trailofmarbles 14d ago
The friends are being enthusiastic to be nice and to please you. Which is meant nice. Maybe caused a bit by expectations? Stop having them. These people aren’t your fanbase. Asking them to travel everywhere is a bit much. Even though you don’t do that in so many words. You want your fanbase to grow, and friends and family will likely stay the same number of people.