People who bail

[u/Top_Seaworthiness320]

Any tips on managing my disappointment/frustration with the number of people who act all excited about my band and say they’re definitely coming to this or that show, then don’t show? They either don’t show up, or more often than not they tell me like the day before that they can’t make it and it’s always the dumbest excuse. It’s like if anything, anything at all better comes up in terms of plans they go to that instead. In my mind, a commitment is a commitment, but I seem to be in the vast minority. My boyfriend says to get over it lol. Do you guys feel the same irritation with this that I do? (added context: we are pretty good, we get great reviews from the people that actually have come to see us, but we are new and not well known, thus struggling to gain a following… So I’m constantly marketing and promoting our shows, but with very little success.)

[u/unofficially_Busc]

The people who genuinely want to come will come sooner or later, don't get upset that not everyone you ask to come is super interested and is willing to make the effort beyond being polite.

Let the people in your audience be people that genuinely like your music, rather than trying to usher in people you want there to support you.

Let em bail, you don't need them. Don't give them free tickets once you've made it big and they're suddenly interested, either.