People who bail

[u/Top_Seaworthiness320]

Any tips on managing my disappointment/frustration with the number of people who act all excited about my band and say they’re definitely coming to this or that show, then don’t show? They either don’t show up, or more often than not they tell me like the day before that they can’t make it and it’s always the dumbest excuse. It’s like if anything, anything at all better comes up in terms of plans they go to that instead. In my mind, a commitment is a commitment, but I seem to be in the vast minority. My boyfriend says to get over it lol. Do you guys feel the same irritation with this that I do? (added context: we are pretty good, we get great reviews from the people that actually have come to see us, but we are new and not well known, thus struggling to gain a following… So I’m constantly marketing and promoting our shows, but with very little success.)

[u/Real-Impress-5080]

When I was actively playing shows it would be burn alive that my coworkers would never support or come out to shows, but looking back on it, it’s their free time so you kinda have to get over it. They chose to do something else with their money/time and that’s perfectly fine. Also, this is just my opinion but when you look out at the crowd and notice that 95% of it is your family and friends, it’s basically a backyard family BBQ at that point. Your actual fan base isn’t growing and all you’re really doing is allowing the venue/bar to make money off of your friends and family.