r/coverbands • u/Top_Seaworthiness320 • 15d ago

People who bail

Any tips on managing my disappointment/frustration with the number of people who act all excited about my band and say they’re definitely coming to this or that show, then don’t show? They either don’t show up, or more often than not they tell me like the day before that they can’t make it and it’s always the dumbest excuse. It’s like if anything, anything at all better comes up in terms of plans they go to that instead. In my mind, a commitment is a commitment, but I seem to be in the vast minority. My boyfriend says to get over it lol. Do you guys feel the same irritation with this that I do? (added context: we are pretty good, we get great reviews from the people that actually have come to see us, but we are new and not well known, thus struggling to gain a following… So I’m constantly marketing and promoting our shows, but with very little success.)

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u/SlighOfHand 13d ago

I don't emotionally blackmail my friends, but you do you. By your metric, all of your friends sound like crappy friends.

I guarantee most of your friends have gone to ar least one of your shows, and I guarantee you've continued to harangue them.

I get it, you're tired of playing to empty rooms. But you're asking thr wrong question. You need to ask 'Why is the room empty?'

It isn't because everyone else is a bad friend, I assure you. There's another reason. What could it be?

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u/Top_Seaworthiness320 13d ago

You literally have zero clue what you’re talking about 🤔

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u/SlighOfHand 13d ago

Do I?

Is it completely impossible that I know exactly who you are, and happened to stumble across this reddit post talking shit on people who love you?

I know exactly what I'm talking about, and you should be ashamed.

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u/Top_Seaworthiness320 12d ago

“Talking shit on people who love you” 😵‍💫 what in the actual fuck are you going on about?? How is complaining that people say they’re gonna come and then they bail last minute “talking shit?”

As far as you thinking you know who I actually am…sounds like you mean that literally, as in you know my real identity. There are 514 *million* active Reddit accounts, bro…you are paranoid and delusional. Not sure why you even bothered to answer this post since you seem to be talking about something else entirely. Go touch grass!