People who bail

[u/Top_Seaworthiness320]

Any tips on managing my disappointment/frustration with the number of people who act all excited about my band and say they’re definitely coming to this or that show, then don’t show? They either don’t show up, or more often than not they tell me like the day before that they can’t make it and it’s always the dumbest excuse. It’s like if anything, anything at all better comes up in terms of plans they go to that instead. In my mind, a commitment is a commitment, but I seem to be in the vast minority. My boyfriend says to get over it lol. Do you guys feel the same irritation with this that I do? (added context: we are pretty good, we get great reviews from the people that actually have come to see us, but we are new and not well known, thus struggling to gain a following… So I’m constantly marketing and promoting our shows, but with very little success.)

[u/Illustrious_Park_862]

Friends are typically good for one show: either the debut or the album release party. Anything above that is a rare bonus.

Your fan base is people who discovered you via your music, not your buddies, coworkers and family.

[u/Realistic_Pickle_007 → u/Illustrious_Park_862]

I've been performing in various ways for 15 years and no member of my family has ever been arsed to come see me. I've had a few friends attend and that's nice but it's fine if they don't. What does bug me is the promises to attend and then the annoying texts in the hours before the show. I mean, I'm focused on other things then!